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Re: WuD? - Moving on. [Re: whatsupdoc?] #438513
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What a weekend. Saturday was about the lowest I have been in, well - ever. I could not get out of bed. The past was running the show.
I have been reading the posts of the newbies, and I see such "rinse, repeat" of what happened to me it's sickening. I guess a acquaintance who had recovered who found out later he was still WS all along weakened my belief in unicorns.

Not working the RenFen, the did I worked with is ill and stayed in CA. The other "owner" who I do not know well is running the show. Oh, well. I spent a huge amount on costumes, but you can't control things like this. Trying to be positive. The best outcome for me is that I chose and lost over two stones in weight preparing for the event, it motivated me to not be hauling around the extra during the show.

Huge loss of income, huge gain in health.

Since the hep A scare at the RenFest (thank you for the words of caution!), I also live in a town with a restaurant outbreak, I'm sort of glad I have nothing to do with the place. I was vaccinated years ago for a trip to Peru, I believe - but am glad I have no association to the drama. Anyhow.

Now, I'm getting downright skinny. Well, still curvy, always had those, but on the thin side of things. I'm lower now than when I was on the the "crash" divorce diet. New way of eating, new way of thinking about chow. New shape, that still remarkably looks like my old, old shape. Yeah.

To get out of the house I was at our fantastic Belle Isle painting the Scott Fountain. Look it up, it's beautiful! When I left I had to hurry, because while carrying all that paint/supplies - my pants were falling down running to the car.
That had to be a sight, thank Gawd no one cared.

I also got into a big FB "fight" with a rather famous lady who owned a historic home.
It was not my fault.

It all stared with the guy from CSI who bought the Fisher Mansion a few years ago. He's put millions into it. Many say the renovations are a nightmare. I'm not sure, but do not like the gaudy current decorations, nor the renovations that make the third and second floor look like a modern loft. As people were going back and forth, this lady targeted me - {why not one of the 50 men who said it was ugly?} - We had quite the back and forth.

COME to find out. She owned/restored and sold the Barry Gordy mansion, Martha Reeves - as in the Vandellas, is her cousin. She is a highly respected author and tax attorney in the area. hehehehe. We were flinging some dialogue.

In the article she posted about the sale of her former home, I found a quote from her that contradicted her very argument she was making with me! Well, S#@t. I posted it an innocently asked, "Did you say this about the sale of your home?" (Yes, she did)-- Woo Hoo, did she have a time explaining around that one.

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I was wondering what you were up to this weekend. Sorry to hear you were ill. Picturing you scurrying across the way with your skinny self made for a comical image. LOL!!!

Ok, so you had a FB row with author and tax attorney? WUD, that's just weird.

Well, I've got to get some shut eye......it's late.

Take care and I hope you feel better soon. smile

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Congrats on the weight loss and on sticking up for yourself on FB. As always, you are an inspiration.


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Good for you, WuD! You go girl!!!

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The particular lady on this site was implicating that I was "rude" for putting negative remarks on the thread. If I haven't tried to renovate, I shouldn't comment. If I did not live in the city, I should not comment. Things like that. Angers me as a teacher.

These are professional designers. They can take a little critique. I know a little bit about renovating and art and evaluation of a visual piece. For her to say I was too "puny" to have an opinion was ludicrous! Even if I had no education in the matter -- people are allowed to have an opinion. &^%*&$^*$&#^#*$&^#&*^!!!!!!!!

Yes, I know it is tough to renovate an older home, but you do not have to be rich, or famous or live in the city limits to give an opinion. I gave the house a 50/50 - others killed it.


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Apologies. Barry Gordy was a founder of Mowtown Records. His son is RedFu ("Sexy and I know it", "Party rockers" guy) The family had a mansion that was abandoned for 20 years, and this particular lady/poster, who has famous Mowtown relations (Martha and the Vandellas were a very popular Mowtown singing group.) bought the place to restore it to previous glory.

The Gordy mansion was restored, (I almost went to the moving sale) charity events raised there, and after 2.5 years she found new owners, who are very private.



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https://aspiremetro.com/fishermansion/
https://www.detroitnews.com/story/l...gue-charles-t-fisher-mansion/1224148002/

I still give it a 50/50. I'll be first in line for tickets. I still say
"Beetlejuice, Beetlejuice, Beetlejuice!" on the second and third floor. razz

https://www.freep.com/story/enterta...y-gordys-detroit-mansion-sold/755473001/ My nemesis hahahaha waves....

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WuD:

You should join the Junior league... they could use you.

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Finding an ethical way to deal with pain, fear, disappointment etc..is part of the experience of becoming a stronger person...one who is driven by compassion instead of compulsion...ie I have a legitimate reason to be stressed out right now...however, my response to it will determine how others percieve me, and myself. (quoting Star*Fish)
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We need a WuD update. smile The kind of Adventures in Period-Specific Remodeling Along With Entertaining and Fantastically Fun so that I can be motivated to get on with my tile project....

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OOoap. Funny.
Have a friend who has lived here 25 years, never been downtown. Except to go to her (former 68 ft long boat at the marina/Red Wings occasional game.)

Saturday--
Took her to Eastern Market, (the new murals are rocking) Pewabic Pottery, Corktown and a few distilleries, and an avant guard Thai place (snobby, built out of semi containers, funky) place. She said she had an amazing time. It was pretty run o the mill, really. We were handed free Stroh's beer as we entered one establishment. How ya going to complain about that? Detroit Mercantile. She wanted to buy everything in the store. (Slow down there, hoss. We have all day to check things out.)

She showed me her former boat, her x husband, a cheater, still owns. It was a huge Hatteras. She was shocked I knew the name from the profile. So, kinda was I. Geez, how some people get to live.


Today I painted the beautiful Scott fountain today at Belle Isle. Drew it last week, I think. Love talking to the kids who ask the best questions. "Did you know I threw money in the fountain? "-no." "Are you famous?" "-no". " Are you an artist?" "Ah!, ye.eee... -no." "Can I paint, too?" "-no."

It looked really good - I did the I.D.G.A.F (I don't give a ****) painting style, holding the brush near the end, leaving brushwork very bold. Got it about 57% done, lady offered to buy it - finished painting sight unseen. Really? New one.

Loath to price a painting that I don't even know what it is going to look like.

She didn't bat an eye, took my address and phone. I thought "Yeah, sure", we will see.
Lunch at the famous Mudgies in Corktown. Lawn mowing and fall clean up.

OH, and...


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I was offered a BOATLOAD of money for my home. Well, for me it would be a boatload.
The neighbor across the street sold in 2 days for $227,000 - they bought it 5 years ago for $97,000.

Didn't do much to it. At that price for such a tiny house I would have sold, too. He was a young hipster curmudgeon. 'riddance, dude. She seemed like a nice gal. (My old realtor told me they should thank me for my work, both two houses around me sold for RIDICULOUS amounts of money.)

I have covered porch/basement/dormer/deck. Neither of these houses have any of those. I have twice the square footage (with dormer bedroom) and + 1/2 bath. Plus, I'm stylin.

At those comps -- I was told, and I really think, I could get $300,000 = $320,000 in the current "arty" state.
Now, that's @ $150,000 - $170,000 more than I paid for it. Even considering (high estimating) renovations $$ I invested, that's still a $100,000 +/- profit. Profit. In 3 short years. For me that is tempting.
Agent says there are cash buyers flooding this size house market. They all say that. But the longest listed home in my area was 72 hours.

BUT --
- Sell at inflated price, you have to buy at inflated price to stay here.
- I'll have to move, again. razz
- I like the house.
- Do I really have it in me to do this again? Right now with rotator cuff giving me h#ll?

P.S. The prices? That's not sustainable. D.I.N.K.S are going to suffer like 2008 - I'm afraid they will loose everything. It's like Russian Roulette with mortgages. Houses are way over inflated, mortgages are flying high.

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"Secure your air mask before assisting others."

My sis was a Stewardess "stew crew" from Evergreen Airlines back in the day. They actually had to do live passenger emergency training, that means evacuate a completely full 747 airplane. Yellow vest, pop side door, extend blow up slide chute and all.

Even tho the people knew it was a test, even tho they were given explicit instructions, with the emergency instructions - when the scene actually happened, natural panic takes over.

During her first test evacuation, the air bags came down, they then told people to ignore bags but put on vest and evacuate the plane.....

A grown man had a panic attack. Sitting window seat, completely flipped out, pushed his wife and small child down stepping over them -- he got wayyyyyy down the aisle before coming to his senses and tried to turn back to go help his family evacuate the plane, at that point going against the evacuation flow.

It is amazing how your gut instinct can take over your better judgement. I have never forgotten when she came home and told us.

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How are you doing WuD? Anything new to report like you're dating again? wink

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well..
I made about 80 bars of goat milk soap for the holidays. (4 - 6 weeks to cure) Lemongrass, Lavender Rosemary and Lemongrass Sage.

I made 3 liters of Lemoncello (zest 30 HUGE, non waxed lemons, preferably from the Amalfi cost) set to infuse with 3 liters of vodka- room temp. In a little over a week I will mix with simple syrup and bottle for gifts. A great aperitif!
(These spa baskets are going to be awesome!) Lemon French Macaroons and lemon bath bomb to be included.

I am dating the nicest man. He's a chump too, I don't know if there are fireworks, but I could use some decent company right now. We are going to the opera downtown this Thursday.
He's only been divorced a year, that is really REALLY new - if you were shock dumped from a long term marriage.

I'm letting him do the chasing.

Work is crazy! I have the most immature, mean kids this trimester. They will hopefully grow up when the upperclassmen put them in their spots. Makes 2x the work for me, and I can not ENJOY working with them. So, that is disappointing.

Getting the house in order to set up for the holidays. Having a few students come over to move boxes, mop basement and re organize the studio and basement area. I just can't move objects around like I used to. They will come back to rake up the leaves in a few weeks. I should do it myself, but this makes everything go so much faster!

So. Life is pretty good.

I overspent (for me) on the house this year. Trying to fugure out the best way to attack that debt (I like to live debt free.)
Still keeping the weight off! I look simply smashing and fabulous! More expensive to buy "real" food, but worth it.


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WuD what an awesome update! Those sound like beautiful gifts. How do you think of this stuff? I can smell the lemon just reading about it. I’m sorry about the kids, I hope they learn soon. Good luck with the new man, how did you find him?


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Originally Posted by whatsupdoc?
well..
I made about 80 bars of goat milk soap for the holidays. (4 - 6 weeks to cure) Lemongrass, Lavender Rosemary and Lemongrass Sage.

I made 3 liters of Lemoncello (zest 30 HUGE, non waxed lemons, preferably from the Amalfi cost) set to infuse with 3 liters of vodka- room temp. In a little over a week I will mix with simple syrup and bottle for gifts. A great aperitif!
(These spa baskets are going to be awesome!) Lemon French Macaroons and lemon bath bomb to be included.

I am dating the nicest man. He's a chump too, I don't know if there are fireworks, but I could use some decent company right now. We are going to the opera downtown this Thursday.
He's only been divorced a year, that is really REALLY new - if you were shock dumped from a long term marriage.

I'm letting him do the chasing.

Work is crazy! I have the most immature, mean kids this trimester. They will hopefully grow up when the upperclassmen put them in their spots. Makes 2x the work for me, and I can not ENJOY working with them. So, that is disappointing.

Getting the house in order to set up for the holidays. Having a few students come over to move boxes, mop basement and re organize the studio and basement area. I just can't move objects around like I used to. They will come back to rake up the leaves in a few weeks. I should do it myself, but this makes everything go so much faster!

So. Life is pretty good.

I overspent (for me) on the house this year. Trying to fugure out the best way to attack that debt (I like to live debt free.)
Still keeping the weight off! I look simply smashing and fabulous! More expensive to buy "real" food, but worth it.





Aw WUD it makes me happy to hear you are dating a nice man. A year divorced is ok for some people. Men especially don't like being alone.

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Thanks. I was basically a really happy individual before, I assume I will be a happy person in the future. It's been almost 5 years. That's a long time to be lost.

I'm playing it as it goes. (Said like I have any other options.) It's just nice to get out, have adult conversations. This gent is REALLY lonely, his wife dumped him, both of his children off to college so empty nest syndrome on top of being rejected. I'm not rebound material.

At one year out, I was not even close to being ready to date, but I thought I was. Now I have the distance I can see that. I think he needs solid relationships more than a girlfriend. BUT he is going to do what he chooses. I can only control my part, right?

I don't want to put myself in a position that causes others - or myself - undue pain.

But great conversations and nice dinners out are cool! I also have about a dozen or so female pals that would claw to get such a nice man as a date. I'm just looking at it like a grown up.


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Good for you, WUD! You are an incredible person, inside and out. Your energy is admirable. I wish you continued happiness...and better behaved kids this trimester.

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Wow WUD,

Great update!!! I'm smiling ear to ear on your update. For so many lemon reasons (you must retire and start up your own on-line store). smile

Ah yes, your new friend. Good to hear you are able to find enjoyable company and probably give him some support. Best way to build an R vs jump into a bed. wink

Very happy for you and hope your students learn sooner than later what a great teacher they get to have this school year. thumbsup

Hugz,
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What as fantastic update! So happy to hear that you are dating a nice man who treats you well and that you have tackled holiday gifts already. Good for you!

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Wowzer. Just a bunch of everything and nothing going on. JUST AMAZED at how Trump America is working for us all. Group of Smart** boys keep agitating and teasing the severely Autistic kid in class, probably the 5th or 6th time I noted /corrected it. So how many times did I NOT hear it?

Note: Think Trump at the rally, holding his wrist up and shaking and mocking the reporter.
-- that level of dumb.

Warning/warning/warning- principal's - phone calls home ("Oh my innocent son CHAMPIONS Special Ed kids! He would NEVER tease! You must be mistaken".)

Finally, last, but worst, incident of teasing (about seven kids started laughing with) I threw the hammer down. "We WILL not speak in this manner here." "This is NOT funny, will NOT happen again - in my room or in my presence, ever." - the boys got a day in house suspension, finally, but no apologies, no plans to do better- nothing. Just sent back.

The school was giving ME flack about writing this up. Their big solution? Move the special ed kid's seat - NOT make the boys just treat him any better. All three boys are 0% sorry. Moving the kids 15 feet away is not going to stop this. School cringed and don't even want to label it "bullying", (I passed bullying him on step 3, called it abuse of a special needs student.)

Apparently, I'm supposed to;
1. Think I made a mistake assuming kids were taunting.
2. Move the victim, not fix the problem with the kids.
3. Have better control over my classroom (NOT escalate issues) Note: these kids have issues all day, not just my class...
4. Most importantly, not loose my mind and flip out all over these boys when (or if ) they continue.....

Never in 30 years have kids been so blatant about publicly mocking other students. Instead of jeers from their classmates, they are laughing along with- at least this time they did.

Everyone says they "stand up for special needs kids." I have observed very little of that in action lately. In fact, mocking and humiliating others has a new level of public acceptance.

These students seem like the bully who punches someone hard, then says "Why are you crying? Are you a sissy?" "Hey, look, everyone! We have a sissy over here!"

>barf<
They are about to meet my inner WuD?

Actually, I'm going to protect my meeker kids, and let the bullies dig their own graves in another class with another teacher. Let that staff deal. It is bound to happen, if they continue this nastiness.


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School administrators remind me of HR people. Pretend they're there to help employees, but really just there to protect the company. I've had my share of crap with them.

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School administrators remind me of HR people. Pretend they're there to help employees, but really just there to protect the company. I've had my share of crap with them.



I know right. My dh’s company doesn’t have a HR department. Very very intentionally. The owners came from large firms and they don’t like all that red tape. It is a small company though....I imagine at some point the law requires HR. I really don’t know though.

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I'm sorry you and others in the educational field plus many workers and folks in general have to deal with the current trend in being a bully. They are being prompted to be hateful by the very person who is suppose to be setting the example of good conduct but at this time, that person is doing a horrible job. In any working environment, he would be labeled as a bad employee and fired. He has broken so many employee handbook rules, it is a shame that Congress' ruling party is supporting violating the rights of minorities, employees, special needs persons, etc.

The ruling party in Congress has made themselves as a group basically complicit (definition: choosing to be involved in an illegal or questionable act, especially with others; having complicity).

In addition to identifying and exposing such bad behavior, we should be asking the question parents and grandparents used to ask, 'who taught or told you to do this?'

That question put the blame closer to who it belonged to, the source of the bad behavior. It might take a twisted trail to get there but if it keeps pointing up to the same source, then it maybe better to go after the source who is encouraging bad behavior.

For example, we already know that DT like to be an instigator then steps back and enjoys the chaos he has created. Prime bullying tactic. Those outlandish outcries at those rallies that prompt the chants like 'lock her up' is fueled by his rhetoric. How is that having an impact on such malleable (def: capable of being extended or shaped by hammering or by pressure from rollers) folks who act without thought as to how their actions will hurt others.

Such supporters are riding the wave that feeds the beast and think it is their right to encourage an even larger group to harm others with glee.

Those without values, morals and ethics who support such a cowardly bully make their environment unsafe. The results is that even those who are trying to protect the victims can often become victims themselves.

Mob rule is something we need to learn about so we can be prepared. Once H, son and nephew were in a documentary of the last hanging in a town in CA. H was one of the 'mob' crew and part that he played was the guy who climbed up the tree to place the hanging rope. It was written and produced by a young student who was studying producing movies. Our son and nephew were also in that movie and played the young kids who were also prompted by the mob. It was a bit chilling to see how the mob came together so quickly and even the actors shivered when they saw their parts broadcast.

Yet during the filming, some of the actors stated that they got caught up in the fervor of the mob and felt their souls changing (even if for a short time) into an actual mob believer. They said it was hard to walk away from that feeling and go back to being themselves again.

My son and nephew were about 6 - 8 at the time. We had to talk to them about how this was only acting for a movie vs reality. SIL had a hard time since her son was one who didn't want to let go of his new found ability to be a bully. My son found it easier to let go of that attitude, he realized what he was asked to portray was wrong.

As I watched that short documentary, it sent shivers up my spine. Our family had friends who were chased by mobs and watched their own friends tarred and feathered back in the 1940's right here in this country. Even if we didn't know all the details, it was a horrible point of true history to acknowledge.

Race is just one of the reasons a mob rises up. Any reason to create a mob to mistreat a person is wrong.

Their are other examples of mob rule, even in the Bible and history books. Don't dismiss this as only current events. In our own 20th century, rules like Hitler, Mussolini and others have used mob violence to carry out and cover over their own agenda.

Don't confuse this information as favoring any political party, view it was information worthy of consideration so we can learn how to identify mob rule in the making and learn how to diffuse it.

jmo,
Orchid

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A newscaster on my favorite liberal station today said he had talked to 5 different teachers in the last week who had spontaneously told him that they are completely unable to keep up with the surge in bullying behavior in their students. The students simply say "Trump does it."


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Originally Posted by SmilingWife
Originally Posted by catperson
School administrators remind me of HR people. Pretend they're there to help employees, but really just there to protect the company. I've had my share of crap with them.



I know right. My dh’s company doesn’t have a HR department. Very very intentionally. The owners came from large firms and they don’t like all that red tape. It is a small company though....I imagine at some point the law requires HR. I really don’t know though.
I don't think there's a law for that. I used to work for Insperity, which is one of those companies that provides HR services to smaller companies that don't want to hire real people for the job. It seemed to just be an issue of getting payroll out and hiring people.

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