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Would you pay your ex a 'break-up fee'? - BBC #435922
05/16/18 11:11 PM
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Earlier this month, police in the eastern Chinese city of Hangzhou responded to a call after bar staff reported finding a suspicious suitcase.

It contained two million yuan in cash ($314,204; £233,323) - an extraordinary amount of money, maybe even life-changing.

They managed to track down the owner, who according to the local police, had arranged to meet with his ex-girlfriend in the bar.

The money? It was a "break-up fee" a new trend in Chinese dating.

The price of true love?

Everyone knows that dating can be expensive; forking out a bit of cash to buy drinks or meals in the early stages of a relationship, or buying gifts and holidays later on.

No longer content to just have the awkward meeting to hand each others' stuff back, break-up fees have emerged in recent years in China as a sort of compensation at the end of a long-term relationship.

While not legally binding, it's a bit like one party giving their former partner a divorce settlement...


Would you pay your ex a 'break-up fee'?


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Re: Would you pay your ex a 'break-up fee'? - BBC [Re: AntigoneRisen] #435975
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How far from a "break-up" fee is equitable distribution of marital property in a divorce? Lots of people in the US are happy to pay the price for their freedom. I am finally glad that I didn't. But there was a long stretch where I was sorely tempted.


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Re: Would you pay your ex a 'break-up fee'? - BBC [Re: AntigoneRisen] #436026
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I was thinking that too Hold. I walked away from a lot of property because I would have rather left money and property on the table than stay tied up in the relationship longer. I just wanted out.

Assets come and go. My peace was more important at that time. I figured I could get more money and more stuff


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg

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