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Bragging about your relationship on social media? We get the impulse. There's nothing better than being in love, and if you feel strongly about your partner, you certainly want to share those feelings with the world.

Posting intimate details is a sign of poor personal boundaries.

Before you click "post," however, reconsider what you're putting out there. Some posts might seem innocuous while putting your relationship in jeopardy. For instance...

1. Don't post what happens between the sheets.
Why It's a Mistake: Well, first of all, gross. Second of all, no one likes a TMI-nator. (That's a portmanteau of "TMI" and "terminator," by the way. You'll be seeing it everywhere soon).

We're not saying you shouldn't engage in a little long-distance flirtation with your S.O. If that's your thing, though, keep it on the texts. Whatever you do, don't post anything publicly without the full consent of your partner, or you could be putting your relationship in jeopardy.

“When someone posts personal information about their relationship, they are also revealing things about their partner that they may not want shared with the public," Jim Seibold, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells FashionBeans. "This can damage trust between the couple."

We'll file that under "yeah, duh," but it's certainly something to keep in mind.

2. Keep the personal details about your partner to yourself.
Why It's a Mistake: You might think it's cute that your girlfriend sleeps with a Pound Puppy. She probably doesn't want her coworkers to get that little glimpse into her intimate life, though. Besides, aren't those details sweeter when they're just between the two of you?

As a general rule of thumb, ask your partner if you can post a personal detail you're thinking of sharing. If they say no, honor their objection.

3. Save the mushy stuff for each other.
Why It's a Mistake: We get it. You love your romantic interest (that's kind of what "romantic interest" means). The world doesn't necessarily want to know your secret pet names, though, not even if they are "potchke," "fleutchke," "notchke, "motchke," or "little, little squirrel."

There are things you share with your partner that aren't meant to be shared with anyone else.

Again, save that stuff for texts or emails. Better yet, send an old-fashioned love letter. You'd be surprised how effective something as simple as a piece of paper can be.

“Posting this type of information minimizes the specialness of the relationship. An important characteristic of intimate relationships is it uniqueness,” Seibold tells us. “There are things you share with your partner that aren't meant to be shared with anyone else. That helps create an intimate connection between the couple. The more that information is shared, the less the relationship feels special and unique.”

So while it might seem special to upload a photo of your beau just waking up, you’re actually allowing all these people a glimpse into a private moment.

4. Keep unapproved pictures of your partner on the camera.
Why It's a Mistake: People are weird about what they consider "unflattering" when it comes to images of themselves. A certain pout might be the most adorable expression in the world to you. Your partner, though, might consider it his Twilight look, and not in a good way.

Remember the social media relationship rule of thumb: Ask before posting. You'll never go wrong when you get permission first.

5. Stop trying to win points in your lovers' spat.
Why It's a Mistake: When you make your fight public, you're undermining your ability to make up effectively. Why? Because your friends and family will undoubtedly take your side.

You've opened the door for people to give their two cents about what you are doing in your relationship.

They might not be so keen on your terrific partner a week or two after you called them a "selfish and horrible narcissist." Or whatever.

Keep that stuff private. Once you make up, you'll be glad you didn't go public with your beef...



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