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Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: AllyCat] #411571
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I'm not understanding why you think your life is going to continue being out of control, Ally.

If you fail the orals, you'll be away from them. You are strong because you've made it this far. You lasted a whole year there and were a good doctor.

I would really like to see you go on a quick vacation with your husband to shake up your perspective. You want to be feeling good when choices come up.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: AllyCat] #411584
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It's been 2 years for me, and I imagine your emotional exhaustion mirrors my own. Oh, just a little respite. Not feeling overwhelmed the whole time.

But over the past few weeks I've been trying mindfulness techniques. I'd tried it before and thought it wouldn't work for me, but I've given it another go and am finding that it does calm me down. The book I'm using is by Linda Blair, I think, but I'm sure there are there are others.

I feel so sad for you. I hope you can let go of these negative thoughts.

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: Sonnambula] #411592
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A quick vacation is a great idea. Where can you and your H go? Toronto maybe? There are some fantastic bakeries in Quebec, but you probably don't feel like eating. Maybe a few days somewhere and go shopping for wallets. Go do things fun on purpose, and then try to have fun while you try to distract yourself from the exam results.

No matter what happens, you have conquered everything that has happened to you. You did stellar doctor work. You fought through your H's affair and you improved and reconciled. You are one of the most determined women I've met in my life. You have done so many things and conquered life. Sit back and look at your accomplishments while you have a few days off.

Hugs, Ally.

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: Blair] #411617
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I can't even type. But I needed you all to know.

I don't know how it happened. Or how it's remotely possible.

I'm a board certified Cardiac Surgeon.

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: AllyCat] #411618
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When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: Miranda] #411619
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and one more just because I can't resist it




When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: AllyCat] #411620
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I don't know that I've posted to you before, Ally, but I've been following your thread and have been rooting for you all along. I've been so impressed with your strength, your work ethic, your skill....with YOU.

And now I can say I am incredibly happy for you and so proud for you! Congratulations!!!!!! clapping

Lori


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Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: at peace] #411621
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Fantastic news, Ally.

And if I may be permitted...

I had a sneaking suspicion that would be the result all along.

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: kerala] #411622
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Originally Posted By: kerala


And if I may be permitted...

I had a sneaking suspicion that would be the result all along.


Yep, me too.

Well done Ally, I'm so pleased for you.

MUN

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You have feet in your shoes
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You're on your own and you know what you know
And YOU are the one who'll decide where you go
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Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: MaidUpName] #411624
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Congratulations Ally! I am with Kerala. I had a feeling this would be the outcome despite everything.


Me 59; XH 60
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DD30 (married w/1 1/2 yr old GS) & DD25
DDay Nov. 7, 2012
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Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: BBski] #411625
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Well done, Ally.

The great news made me cry with gratitude and joy.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: believer] #411627
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YOU DID IT!

All the worry, all the anxiety, all the beating yourself up.

YOU DID IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congratulations, Ally.

Go celebrate.


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Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: CajunRose] #411629
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I did not expect it at all.

Mir, was the first one to know as I called her with a mess of tears. I was sobbing.

Then my husband (who actually looked at the result) said....

"Post on MA, they've helped you so much"

So aside from my husband, and Mir, you guys are the first to know.

I keep staring at the page. Thinking its a mistake. I don't think I can sleep because I'm scared to wake up!

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: AllyCat] #411630
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Awesome news! Congrats!


A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short. --Andre Maurois

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: AllyCat] #411631
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You can sleep, because I'm staying up! It can't be a dream for BOTH of us...

lol....


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
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Wow. I am so excited for you!

I know it is easy to say now but I half suspected you would pass. I can't explain it.


Regardless congrats!

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: SmilingWife] #411636
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A big congratulations, Ally!!!!!

I'm very happy for you and for your future patients!

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clapping yahoo dance2 ROFL dance thumbsup highfive hug

What an ordeal! Now for San Fran to call!


Consider that we don't have to live with the consequences of our advice in your life. Act according to what you can live with!
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Happy tears from me too! I can't even type, I'm so happy for you!!!!

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: silverado] #411649
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AC:

You have gone through so much, and all the pieces are not falling nicely into place for you - and you deserve it! So happy for you!

Congratulations!

Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: staystrong] #411650
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Way to go! Congratulations!


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Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: staystrong] #411652
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I was hoping missing a question or two wouldn't lead to UNSUCCESSFUL. You can take back that word now, Ally.

On one of the Fellowship forums a guy thought he'd flunked the oral because he failed to list giving intravenous fluids for a patient experiencing Anaphylactic shock. He said the examiner kept prompting him to explain more, but he completely blanked out.

I forget what kind of doc he was, it's all scrambled in my head, but he passed. I bet he won't ever forget that particular answer.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: believer] #411653
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^^^^ QFT^^^ all of the above.

Fanatastico...

Take a breath... now what are your options??? How exciting!


Me: 50
XH: 13 - well, does emotional age count?
DD1: 24
DD2: 20
30 year partnership...

M: Dec, 1987
Bomb: May 12, 2014
D: Oct, 2015
Ratz.
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Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: whatsupdoc?] #411655
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I was having a very stressful day. You just gave me such a feeling of gladness and warmth and peace. Thank you.

And congratulations. You earned it. You deserve it. Hope you are VERY proud of yourself for succeeding despite such adverse circumstances.


Solutions? There are none. There are decisions.
Re: Is it time to give up? [Re: whatsupdoc?] #411657
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Today is the last day of the fiscal year for many of the hospitals around here (I'm not entirely sure about Baylor, but it's likely).

I recommend that you call Baylor either tomorrow or Tuesday to ask what is going on with that.

We have a holiday on Monday, so your contact may or may not be in the office either of these days, but try anyway.

And happy Canada day (a day early)!


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