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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: NeverGuessed] #327764
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Originally Posted By: NeverGuessed





I see you've brought some of your, um, colleagues with you. Welcome to them as well. grin

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: NeverGuessed] #327781
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Originally Posted By: NeverGuessed
RHW and LG,
Yes, of fame or infamy, I am that NeverGuessed. I am very grateful to have found this site. I hope I can provide some value.

...until you wear out your welcome again, NG!
Oh, be nice!


You can't wear out your welcome here. Believe me -- I tried.

I have to laugh because not too long ago it became apparent that you had run afoul of whatever, and I mentioned to another MA member that I wished you would come here (if only to study your word choice and grammar). I suggested that maybe you were lurking, and this other member said, "no way does he lurk -- if he is around, he is posting."

We are blessed to have you here.


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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: NeverGuessed] #327794
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Originally Posted By: NeverGuessed
A colleague from MB led me here. (I do see some familiar names!)


Hi NeverGuessed,

If you want to see more familiar names, please check out the Reunion Station thread I bumped last night.

Again, welcome.

Ace

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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Ace] #328670
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I googled how long is the average affair & stumbled across this site & am glad I did!

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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Shell shocked] #329201
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Welcome shell shocked, and thank you! smile


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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Lil] #329993
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I found my way here from a banished colleague. I see many familiar names here as well.

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Jessica 6] #330010
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Banished from where?

If that isnt too nosy a question smile


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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Lil] #330015
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Originally Posted By: Lil
Banished from where?

If that isnt too nosy a question smile


pssst, Lil, she said "colleague", it's almost like a secret handshake, I'm willing to bet she's a friend of NG....

Let's wait and see!

And welcome, Jessica!!


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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Miranda] #330020
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Ohhh, right. Secret password. wink


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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Lil] #330038
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Nothing secret about me, just a colleague of NG. (and now I start rhyming....smh) shocked

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Jessica 6] #330058
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Welcome, J6!

At MA the posters can converse,
And even communicate by verse.
No one with a shot-gun,
Can "zap" you just for fun,
Making you feel abused, and much worse!

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: NeverGuessed] #330362
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I found MA through the grapevine and friends. I was sent my walking papers by MB for pointing out that certain advice given to a poster was detrimental to her child custody case and linked appeals decisions to point it out. Dr H had given out similar advice as mine to people on the radio show, but I stepped on the wrong toes.

I won't give advice on recovering a marriage, as I have no expertise on that, but when it comes to the legal aspects of child custody I know more then I care to know. Sadly, the legal system is not about 'justice', but about precedent law and perception. When I rebutted the fact that only people who followed their theory maintained custody, with that most who followed their theory and lost, had left that forum, off I was.

There are some really good people over there, good vets that have helped plenty, but recently most have left. Some of them are FB friends, and I'm trying to keep up with the ones that are not and continue to follow their progress/life.

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Pineneedle] #330372
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Originally Posted By: Pineneedle
I found MA through the grapevine and friends. I was sent my walking papers by MB for pointing out that certain advice given to a poster was detrimental to her child custody case and linked appeals decisions to point it out. Dr H had given out similar advice as mine to people on the radio show, but I stepped on the wrong toes.

I won't give advice on recovering a marriage, as I have no expertise on that, but when it comes to the legal aspects of child custody I know more then I care to know. Sadly, the legal system is not about 'justice', but about precedent law and perception. When I rebutted the fact that only people who followed their theory maintained custody, with that most who followed their theory and lost, had left that forum, off I was.

There are some really good people over there, good vets that have helped plenty, but recently most have left. Some of them are FB friends, and I'm trying to keep up with the ones that are not and continue to follow their progress/life.


I think I remember that. I am/was a lawyer who posted as the unfaithful spouse there for a while.

I was a trial lawyer and had some experience in family law. I wasn't trying to mess with the system -- I was interested in brainstorming on ways to tweak it so that folks didn't get whacked.

It was interesting that every legal opinion I expressed was labelled "wayward."

One woman spoke up and said she thought I was offering legal opinions that had nothing to do with my "wayward" status. She was never heard from again. Interestingly, prior to that exchange, the husband of her husband's affair partner had come over and hit her husband and the forum was like, "YEA" and she was like, "BOO" since her children saw the incident.

She was lectured about how her husband had it coming and her protestations that her children didn't need to see it were met with "well, now they know what happens if you mess with someone else's wife" which, however true, probably didn't resonate with an 8 and 11 year old.

I quite liked her and anyone who ever defends me anywhere from anything will always have a huge space in my heart.


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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: NeverGuessed] #330420
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Originally Posted By: NeverGuessed
Welcome, J6!

At MA the posters can converse,
And even communicate by verse.
No one with a shot-gun,
Can "zap" you just for fun,
Making you feel abused, and much worse!


Yea and we got PM's too, just in case! LOL!

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Rich57] #330557
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How did you guys get pms through? I thought they weren't allowed on MB.

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: SmilingWife] #330558
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SW,

I think Rich was saying that WE have PMs here, in case other methods to communicate fail.


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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Mark1952] #330560
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Originally Posted By: Mark1952
SW,

I think Rich was saying that WE have PMs here, in case other methods to communicate fail.


Oh! Duh! Thank you.

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: SmilingWife] #330580
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How did you guys get pms through?

devil Guys? Why would you blame guys for that?

angel Idiot! It's "pms", all lower case!

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: NeverGuessed] #330584
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Lol! My thought exactly!

ETA - if guys did get PMs though, would it make the world a better place or a worse place?

Would they suddenly understand and be a lot more sympathetic of women?

Or would everyone start to get in synch with one another until, eventually, the whole world would erupt in synch one month and the apocalypse would happen?

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Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Mark1952] #330602
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Originally Posted By: Mark1952
SW,

I think Rich was saying that WE have PMs here, in case other methods to communicate fail.
YUP!

And the other place #2 where I came from does not have PM's either. smile smile smile

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: Jayne241] #330608
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...if guys did get PMs though, would it make the world a better place or a worse place? Would they suddenly understand and be a lot more sympathetic of women?

No, no, no! You are not thinking like the prototypical knuckle-dragging man!

There could be several ways in which this could go down.....

There could be "The World Championship of Anger, Depression, and Projected Moodiness", covered by ESPN, probably once every fourth week! I mean seriously, men insisted on making FISHING a competitive event!

If Hollywood were in charge, we'd have such fare as "Everybody Picks On Raymond", where the poor schlub (as with every other month!) doesn't know what to do or how to cope, and the eternally perky wife drags him back to relative functionality. ("Here, eat some more pasta, and watch the Fried Green Tomatoes and Steel Magnolias marathon again!")

This all assumes we were still HERE, because the reality of Nikita Khrushchev for twenty years, sitting in cold, dreary Moscow, hitting the vodka bottle, all cramped up, eyeing "the button", would imply that the only beings around today would likely be cockroaches, and their ability to create a website would be......questionable!

devil But aren't they RUNNING "D'Other Place"?
angel Shhh, sweetie, not now.....

Re: ***How did you find MA?*** [Re: NeverGuessed] #330687
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Originally Posted By: NeverGuessed
How did you guys get pms through?

devil Guys? Why would you blame guys for that?

angel Idiot! It's "pms", all lower case!


Guys..... According the dictionary: 2. Usually, guys. Informal. persons of either sex; people: Could one of you guys help me with this?

So let's say she just meant....anyone.

pms all lower case: 'pretty mean syndrome' (can apply to either gender). eek

jmo,
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I was recently kicked out of MB due to a post in which I lamented that so many of the wonderful, insightful and most interesting of vets were no longer visible on MB. I guess not everyone misses you guys but FMTWH and I sure have, even in the short time that we have been around.

FMTWH was very upset about my banishment and performed a google search for MB forum reviews. Thankfully, he now understands how very important support is during this difficult process and found me a new lifeline. (He is becoming my warrior hero again.)

I am so very thankful that this forum was formed and found.

FMT

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Originally Posted By: FooledMeTwice
I was recently kicked out of MB due to a post in which I lamented that so many of the wonderful, insightful and most interesting of vets were no longer visible on MB. I guess not everyone misses you guys but FMTWH and I sure have, even in the short time that we have been around.

FMTWH was very upset about my banishment and performed a google search for MB forum reviews. Thankfully, he now understands how very important support is during this difficult process and found me a new lifeline. (He is becoming my warrior hero again.)

I am so very thankful that this forum was formed and found.

FMT


Hello FMTWH and FooledMeTwice,

Again, welcome to MA. It's interesting that many of us were not banned from MB (well, some of us may have been but we don't know it because we no longer try to log in). Ironically, we here at MA refer posters to MB concepts all the time.

Many of us saved our M's using MB processes, or at least our interpretations of them. And we refer folks to the MB books and web site when appropriate. One of our founders, Star*fish believes there's plenty of misery to go around so if another site offers what will be best for the poster, we hope they find it.

At any rate, no matter how you got here we're glad you found us.

Ace


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Originally Posted By: FooledMeTwice
I was recently kicked out of MB due to a post in which I lamented that so many of the wonderful, insightful and most interesting of vets were no longer visible on MB. I guess not everyone misses you guys but FMTWH and I sure have, even in the short time that we have been around.


Orchid: Boy that hairspray air over there must be getting a bit sticky....wicked. grin Oh, they miss us alright....that's why they keep tabs on us. LOL!!! See the difference (for the most part) is we don't miss them.

For me, I miss what we used to have way before all this snarky takeover at da' other place. At one time it served as a true support group that I saw help many people. Banning was a rarity and when it was enacted, it was because true TOS' were violated. Nowadays, it sounds like if you don't use the same hairspray or wonder the same way, you get booted out. What a country.......dat' other place. LOL!!!!

Originally Posted By: FooledMeTwice
FMTWH was very upset about my banishment and performed a google search for MB forum reviews. Thankfully, he now understands how very important support is during this difficult process and found me a new lifeline. (He is becoming my warrior hero again.)


Orchid: Mine was a bit upset that I was mistreated as well. Seems my Xws thought I should be treated better. LOL!!!! Well, he was right and MA came around just in the nick of time. Glad u both are here.

Originally Posted By: FooledMeTwice


I am so very thankful that this forum was formed and found.

FMT


Orchid: Welcome aboard!!! grin

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