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Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: Kirby] #246281
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TAC my ex was 16 years older than me. I don't think it's a big issue as long as you two look similar enough in age that you don't get May-December comments, which we didn't. It was a small issue in that we didn't "get" each others' music and other compatibility stuff that could easily have happened if we were the same age too.

And Goblin, I like the environmentalist, having an in home teenaged babysitter available when you're ready for kids will be a huge help to you and help him be more responsible. My youngest sister is 16 years younger than me and she has been such a blessing to me.

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TAC,

It's funny how that works. Not sure about the young guys going older, but typically guys want a woman that's younger (that's typically), but of course not everyone is like that. I've found that it's easiest to hold a conversation with someone that is roughly the same age that I am. We have shared common experiences and can relate better.

Age differences are fine too, but I always wonder what was in the back of her mind. Is the age difference too great?, etc, etc.

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15 years is a huge difference for many reasons. I stayed within 5 years in my online adventures and ended up with someone within 5 months.
I think it really makes a difference to be on the same page of life.


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Or by how many peoples heads you climbed upon and never thought to thank
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True success is not being afraid to walk, while all the others run.
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: night] #246330
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I had a guy I know tell me why I was getting deluged with younglings. He said that lots of guys fantasize from an early age about a teacher, or one of their friend's mothers, and it just kinda carries over. It fuels the whole MILF thing apparently. I frankly don't get it.

I've decided to keep chatting the two guys and see where it goes. After all, like Kirby said, it's not like I'm "emotionally available", so what the heck.


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Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: Kirby] #246335
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Age difference...I'm dating someone younger...6 years. At my age right now...it makes a slight difference with where we are in life even though we've had similar experiences, both have children etc. In many ways, I am enjoying it smile

My limit on younger is where I am at now. As far as older 10-11 years would be my absolute limit. I'm not sure why those numbers. My mom dated a man 15+ years younger than her for awhile...it worked okay for them (there were issues not age related that ended it).


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Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: strongerone] #246336
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My mom is 7 years older than my dad. She told me one time that it was good because the life expectancy of men is about 7 years less than women. smile I've never seen any issues that were age related between them.

My first ex is 8 years older than me, and age wasn't our issue either.

15 still seems a bit of a reach, but we'll see. I'll report back!


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Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: TACticGAL] #246374
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My mother is 9 years younger than my dad, and my uncle is 18 years older than my aunt. Apparently we grow mature women in our family.

I think place in life and values, etc. are the biggest considerations. I couldn't imagine someone significantly younger because I am not a big fan of the "I'm still a little boy" thing. A dear friend of mine just got married this weekend, and she is 11 years older than the man. They are ecstatic.

Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: TACticGAL] #246375
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If women are shorter they tend to live longer, I would guess the same is true for men. I thought going a bit younger was ok but I think my ex was maybe just meant to be the father of my children.

I am still really not in favor of an age difference where you biologically could be the parent of your partner. So 15 years is right there. Besides my dad is only 20 years older than me so unless you are Harrison Ford, keep on walking.

kat


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Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: kat727] #246389
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My mom was 15 years younger than my dad, and they had a very good marriage.

I'm more comfortable with someone my same age, just because of having things in common.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: believer] #246438
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Might be time for a dating hiatus after the current dalliances with Environmentallist and Civil Servant are over.

Membership of one of my 4 subscriptions has expired and I really don't think it's worth 30/month given I've had only 2 people respond to or initiate a message in the last 4 months. I didn't mind paying the trial price of 13/month quite as much.

Unfortunately the other 3 websites have yielded only messages from folk in Australia, and Cardiff (a 5.5 hr drive away).


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www.datehookup.com is a totally free site...for my area it isn't too bad from what I can tell...


"The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them."
Maya Angelou
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: TACticGAL] #246705
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Originally Posted By: TACticGAL
What do y'all think about vast age differences?


I believe the older we get, the bigger the age window becomes for compatible mates. It is a matter of maturity.

Originally Posted By: herfuturesbright
I think place in life and values, etc. are the biggest bigger considerations.
I agree.

My SO is 9 years younger. We are at the same maturity level even though I am older. Our kids are the same age. We are sexually compatible....

One of my rebound relationships was with a lady 15 years older...

I was dating a wide variety of ladies.

"I will give everyone a chance, worst case; I will learn something new about myself and the world I am part of."-Wygant









Everything is an opportunity. There is no failure. You either learn or you succeed.
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: Ready2Change] #246922
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So, here is the Friday night update and roll call

We had an update courtesy of Dan. Bruce Willis (not the real one) is very happy and is getting married.

Violin has been busy with PB and things are going well. He drives by from time to time, but not too talkative.

St.PeteGirl is now Mrs. HIH. They got married Feb. 11, 2012 in CT, and the honeymoon was in Aruba.
Congratulations HIH! Wishing you a lifetime of happiness together.

Kat is dipping her toe into dating, but taking it slow and being very particular.

Kirby has decided that she's not ready to date, and is putting all men into the friend zone for now. Her kids are still needy.

Abc started out with thinking he wanted to date, but decided not to commit adultery. He will be back
when he is officially divorced.

TBC Update. He was decorating his man cave and preparing to divorce and then date. However, he and his wife are going to try to work things out. Thoughts and prayers to TBC and his family.

Dan is planning a fun summer, back in his home. I think hes moving back SOON. Hes got a couple of ladies on the line, trying to land him.

Flowmom ELOPED and married 6/6/12.

Pookie ELOPED and married 6/6/12. Congrats to him and the Mrs!

BBJ is in a holding pattern and is enjoying her contacts at work.

ATWH is dating and her life is brilliant. The PEAs seem to have hit hard, since she is talking about dancing
the Tango and following his lead. No update lately.

Sparrow is busy with her job and son, and has been GALing. She took a break from dating, but signed up again. No update at all. Im assuming she is in PEA land.

Asher must have run off and married HotYogaGuy. No update.

SoL is back in the PEA soup, and in an exclusive relationship. Wish he would give an update.

Gr8 has been dating a Texas girl, and the PEAs have arrived. He took his dating profile down.

Goblin is now a Fellow in the College of Emergency Medicine! Congratulations to her. She has a job offer where there arent any possibilities way out in NW Wales. She does have a couple of PEA interests, and is in contact with 2 of them.

AnotherShot is around, and dating. This guy may be an EE, but he has a whole other side to him. And now, he has found his PEA lady and they are exclusive.

News on Evolve courtesy of Silverado - Update on Evolve....she passed her boards!!!!! She a full-fledged board certified specialist in Small Animal Emergency Medicine. Way to go, hon!! (In case you ever peek in here..)

Im in a friends relationship with Nick, and going to see how that goes. (Update not well.)

Ready2Change has an SO, and they are going on two years now.

NED has been attacked by PEAs too, and is in an exclusive relationship.

CR and CarDoctor (night) are engaged. The wedding is next year. YAY!!!!!!

Gardener is still a master gardener. He is still here, but not dating right now.

Poet has joined online dating again, and ruminating on what she wants, and how to present that.

Theantichick got a taste of PEAs, but now may be pursuing an untraditional relationship.

Busto has reconciled with his wife and is happy. Check out DB for updates. YAY Busto!


Piano is exclusive with Handy, and may move to the commune.

Croppin has an EE on the line. She is having fun so far. There are a couple of red flags that dont bother her yet. Oops, now they bother her.

Amazon is giving suggestions. He is going to wait until he is divorced and take some time before dating, but enjoys getting to know everyone here. He put up a profile just for fun.

Desert Rose is in an exclusive relationship and enjoying it.

Strongerone peeks in here. She has been following along, and enjoying her new beginning with NewMan.

Holding is married and not dating, but chimes in once in awhile to give the MA ladies a guys POV. `

There are quite a few members who are dating exclusively, so not participating on this thread. Also there are some who are dating but are not quite divorced yet. Hope they will join us soon.

A couple of others are warming up their engines and thinking about dating. I won't mention them until they show up here.

There are so many PEAs flying around this place, I KNOW I have missed someone. Please chime in so you can be added to the group update.

And dont be shy. This thread is very flexible. If you are married, or divorced and not dating, you can contribute by giving suggestions about great dates that youve had, or would like to have.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: believer] #246924
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I'll do it from the other end. Heres a roll call for those that AREN'T swimming in the PEA soup.

Kat.

And -

Amazin

Kirby - she's concentrating on her family

Goblin

Dan

BBJ

Poet

TAC

and me.

Our tribe is thinning out.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: believer] #247028
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Gr8 is back in the single pool. Texas gal was not ready for a LTR.


Find a passion and pursue it.Fall in love.Dream Big.drink wine, eat good food and spend quality time with good friends.laugh everyday.tell stories. learn more. never give up. be grateful try new things be. happy. and above all, make every moment count.
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Here's a nice message -

"Jul 14, 2012 1:12pm
The best, funniest, most well written profile I have ever seen on here! Exceptional and hilarious! It's obvious that you are very intelligent, clever, well-rounded and a lot of fun to be around!

I can meet the 3rd set of your "You should message me if". Maybe I can claim 75% of the 1st set of criteria as well, but I can say with 100% certainty that you can rely on my to take out the trash. Unless "take out the trash" is a euphemism for being a serial killer like on Dexter....in which case, I really can't help you with that.

I'm pretty good at chess too smile

Love to meet you sometime, if you are interested in getting together, please let me know.

Have a great weekend,

Brad"


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
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Anyone who mentions a serial killer in his first message to you is suspicious already. Don't care how cute he makes it.

Last edited by poet; 07/15/12 02:52 AM.

I thank God for all the times he saved my life, for putting all the people in my path who helped save it, and all the other people I met along the way.
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Yeah, but I mentioned a serial killer in my profile -

"On a typical Friday night I am
On a date with some weird guy I met here on OKC.

And hoping that he isn't a serial killer.......................... So far, so good."


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: gr8 day 2b alive] #247088
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Originally Posted By: gr8 day 2b alive
Gr8 is back in the single pool. Texas gal was not ready for a LTR.


I'm sorry it didn't work out.


Kirby
Divorced after 25 years of marriage
Buncha' kids, 2 of them are still minors
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Originally Posted By: believer
Yeah, but I mentioned a serial killer in my profile -

"On a typical Friday night I am
On a date with some weird guy I met here on OKC.

And hoping that he isn't a serial killer.......................... So far, so good."


IMO, it's okay that he mentioned serial killer since you started it. Otherwise it would be a huge red flag.


Kirby
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Buncha' kids, 2 of them are still minors
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: Kirby] #247095
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I should probably delete the serial killer thing. Was just amusing myself when I wrote that.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
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Thanks Kirby,

I have a strange feeling she will call me next week. wink


Find a passion and pursue it.Fall in love.Dream Big.drink wine, eat good food and spend quality time with good friends.laugh everyday.tell stories. learn more. never give up. be grateful try new things be. happy. and above all, make every moment count.
Re: My Online Dating Experience...others please chime in! [Re: gr8 day 2b alive] #247098
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Why is that, gr8? Care to elaborate?


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
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Just a hunch. However if she is questioning things then I really don't want someone like that. Life gets in the way of meny things. How we respond and act is where the true character within us lies.


Find a passion and pursue it.Fall in love.Dream Big.drink wine, eat good food and spend quality time with good friends.laugh everyday.tell stories. learn more. never give up. be grateful try new things be. happy. and above all, make every moment count.
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Here is a different message -

"Do you like porn?"

I wonder how many responses he gets.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
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