I freely admit, I didnt keep up with your thread much before so some of this is new to me.
Right, so just to clarify; you are thinking of D, but still in the weighing up stage. Your H's overall attitude stinks.H appears to believe that the only thing wrong in the M is you. The consequence of taking a stand are worse than the consequences of doing nothing. You believe your H fully understands what you are thinking and feeling about the M. You believe he is making either a deliberate effort to disregard the elephant and/or is truly blind to said elephant getting picked up by you as a precursor to thumping him over the head with it in the form of a D.