Your struggle as to whether to save your M or not is the same that most BS's have to endure...you've had to endure a bit longer than most but it's helpful to see your perspective.
I think it's very wise to contemplate HOW you would proceed if/when you decide NOT to save your M. IMVHO all BS's would benefit from getting help with all aspects of Plan D before they pull the plug.
Like I promised, I am working on getting my similar story over to my blog soon. Sorry for the delay.
Ace
We're overcoming decades of marital dysfunction including abuse, passive aggression, gas-lighting & infidelity (both of us).
