It does not matter how she, or anyone, treats or behaves around you because you have no control of that. How you consistently responded to those actions and interactions around you that is important. That is who you really are.

You were patient, kind and willing to be helpful no matter how they behaved? For moral reasons? You may feel you were being inauthentic, I say exactly the opposite. Your dedication to being tolerant is the authentic you. Especially when it was not easy... ... that is another testament to it.

How on the green earth could that be contrived as a bad thing?

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Me: 50
XH: 13 - well, does emotional age count?
DD1: 24
DD2: 20
30 year partnership...

M: Dec, 1987
Bomb: May 12, 2014
D: Oct, 2015
I am learning how to surf!