Originally Posted by Orchid2
Victims of sexual abuse share stories that show triggers can happen anytime and anywhere. This gives a lifelong sentence to the victim.
Interesting. I don't presume to give different weights to peoples trauma. Their pain is personal. Pain is pain.

I don't see the difference between the pain of sexual abuse, infidelity, or even the death of a child.

I also remember many discussions on this board chiding a betrayed spouse for not getting over the pain of infidelity sooner. I guess I'm interested in finding out what pain is acceptable to dwell on and what pain is not.

Originally Posted by Orchid2
A cheating spouse is just one type of person who can be described as above. As one listens to assault victims, this definition can apply to their attackers as well.
So adulterers can be viewed in the same vein as sexual assault perpetrators? I can agree with that.