It's funny that you say that "He was trying to die." I always say that. It's my trademark at work.
I find that when it comes to extubation, patients know best. I've had a handful of patients pull their own tube out, and they have never been wrong. He's so much better off without a trach etc, he's well on his way. Recovery will be long, he's decinditioned and grumpy and whiny, but that's how men ALWAYS are. I'm happy for you and your family.
Ally, you will never understand the level of comfort you gave me here. I was SO SCARED. I really thought he was going to die and I don't know how to live in a world that doesn't have my brother in it.