Dammit. I had a special character in there! Let me rephrase
I know all about those no good, horrible, cavalier, self serving, bull crap responses to suicide. I heard ALL of them and then some when I was a young woman mourning the loss of my future husband and soul mate.
There's nothing that can be said to mitigate those unkind words.
It's brutal to deal with the loss. And the feeling that you should have DONE something. And that you weren't enough. And all the other hideous stuff that you feel.
I'm so sorry.
When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg