Ok, point very well taken re: the bait and switch. Yes, he sees it that way. He dated a very happy-go-lucky, fun person. He got married to a stressed out, overworked, nut-case who began to suffer from major panic/anxiety disorder and soon could not leave the house without him in tow.

Then I found CBT and some Klonopin. That helped.

Then we moved back up to the PNW. That *really* helped.

Stuff I liked to do before marriage.

1. Dance
2. Play tennis
3. Run/bike/swim...race...etc.
4. School
5. Cook
6. Read
7. Drink wine and enjoy sunsets.