Originally Posted by Medc
I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive the dishonesty of leaving out such important info re: their previous relationship

And there it is. I don't blame you for this...it is, at least , honest.

THIS is the heart of the issue. It doesn't matter one bit if he gets a job or not. You can't forgive him and resent him for tricking you into marriage. I GET that.

So, put aside all this other silliness and be honest. You are divorcing him because you can't forgive his infidelity. THAT I can understand.

Is it that she can't forgive, or that he hasn't shown her remorse that she can feel is real? He doesn't get to decide when she's "over it", and that attitude is usually of someone who doesn't really think he did anything wrong.

Let me not be so vain to think I'm the sole author of my victories and and a victim of my defeats. -- ze frank