Ugh.

Forgive me for projecting. My 1st H went through a period after he messed up his career and literally could not get hired in that career again. He wouldn't flip burgers (even as a manager) because it was "beneath him". Meanwhile (this was before I was making the $$ I am now) we were some $600 short on the bills every month. I could NOT get him to see how much it was killing me to be thinking about trying to find a 2nd job while I'm having to put my baby in daycare because he wouldn't even watch her, and he's sitting on his rump.

And of course, then I go and marry #2 who has now been failing to contribute anything significant to the finances. But at least I'd become self-sufficient to handle everything on my own. Until of course he convinced me to take on further debt on his behalf. (Yes, I am an idiot sometimes.)

OH, not trying to t/j, just trying to point out that once they start this nonsense, you lose respect for them. How can you have a marriage where you don't respect your H? I will never understand how a man can live with himself sitting on his rump while his wife is struggling to keep from losing the house. UNACCEPTABLE.

Frankly, if I were you, I'd put it to him point blank that he needs to bring in x$ a month starting THIS MONTH, and you don't care if he sells plasma or prostitutes himself to do it. Give him exactly ONE MONTH to bring in that x$ or he's out the door, whatever legal maneuvering that takes.

Ok, I'm kidding about the prostitution.

Mostly.