His question was about her knowing the people...she didn't. That was what he wanted to know. Frankly, I don't blame him for not wanting to chit-chat with OH right now. She has made it clear that he is a disappointment to her and that she doesn't love him. What is there for him to be chatty about???
And what was unanswered or said? I am missing that from the actual words spoken.
As for "any time" or "only when convenient or beneficial" I thought we were talking about the "incident" from today. Dragging historical problems into the discussion is a sure-fire way to derail ANY chance for a positive encounter.
I responded to what OH stated. She said that her problem with this discussion was that "I can't even ask him why he wanted to know if I knew them"...This WAS clearly answered. IF he had pulled some random person out of the air and said do you know so & so, I would agree....but the fact is, it was explained...he received an email from them about doing work. It is flat out nitpicking...based on what she said about today's discussion.