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Being The Safe Place For Your Marriage During Infidelity

Shattered Couple

  “Everybody is looking for validation, no matter who you are, and I think that’s a need of the human condition – to look for affection or recognition or validation.” – Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu Being The Safe Place For Your … Continue reading

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Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity

Healing & Recovery

Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity Infidelity affects nearly 80% of the marriages in the US. Most marriages that are rocked by infidelity do not end due to the affair; if the marriage ends in divorce following an … Continue reading

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Save Your Marriage Central: How Making Demands Destroys Love

Couple Arm Wrestling

We all have needs: both physical and emotional. Some of these needs are met through other people, particularly in intimate relationships. We become quickly frustrated when our needs are not met. When our needs are not met for a length … Continue reading

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Save Your Marriage Central: Compatibility in Marriage

Compatibility in Marriage

Compatibility. Sounds so good. It’s a dream we all have, to find that one special person who will mesh with every part of our lives. Someone who will be there when we need them, laugh at our jokes, understand when … Continue reading

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Marriage Is A Team Sport: Becoming A Team Player

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Are you a team player? Successfully overcoming problems in a marriage is more often than not related to the ability of both spouses to see the marriage as something bigger than either one of them, and even bigger than the … Continue reading

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Boundaries In Marriage – Part I: Couples In Intimate Relationships

Couple On A Crumbling Wall

Boundaries in marriage pose challenges to many. Even as I began to understand Personal Boundaries, I am still stunned by what happens with a couple in a committed relationship.  People constantly tell me that they can get along with anyone except their … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part VI: When Your Boundaries Conflict With Someone Else’s

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“That is my desk. Please leave it alone.” “No, it’s my desk, and I’ll use it whenever I please.” Until now, this series has focused on more clear-cut personal boundaries, including property ownership. But what happens when ownership is shared: more … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part V: Boundary Position Statements

Referee: Out of Bounds

“That is my desk. Please leave it alone.” “If you do that again, I will leave.” “I will not let myself be treated this way.” Have you ever said these things, or something similar? Most of us have, which is good. … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part IV: Boundary Attack Awareness

Two Knights Fighting in Front of a Castle

Have you ever felt upset? What about: Angry? Indignant? Frustrated? Resentful? Battered? Agonized? Furious? I think that we all have. These emotions are part of the human experience. They are also signs of a Boundary Invasion. Now that we know what Boundaries … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part III: The Energy of Boundaries

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“That doesn’t feel good.” “Dammit, stop that!” “I’m leaving!” Have you ever said any of the above, or something very similar? I think that we all have. These statements are Defending Your Boundaries. How do we choose the appropriate defense … Continue reading

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