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I Cheated, and Now I Need Help!

Man Holding Head on Steps

You’ve cheated, and now you need help. Maybe you have ended your affair, or maybe you want to and can’t find the willpower to stick to it. You have searched for help on websites or forums, and you’ve stumbled upon … Continue reading

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Coping With Infidelity: The Betrayed Spouse Fog

The Betrayed Spouse Fog

The Betrayed Spouse Fog is a term primarily used to describe the state of mind and actions, or lack thereof, of a Betrayed Spouse who is struggling with accurately sizing up the situation before and/or after the affair is discovered. Much of … Continue reading

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Boundaries In Marriage – Part I: Couples In Intimate Relationships

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Boundaries in marriage pose challenges to many. Even as I began to understand Personal Boundaries, I am still stunned by what happens with a couple in a committed relationship.  People constantly tell me that they can get along with anyone except their … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part VI: When Your Boundaries Conflict With Someone Else’s

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“That is my desk. Please leave it alone.” “No, it’s my desk, and I’ll use it whenever I please.” Until now, this series has focused on more clear-cut personal boundaries, including property ownership. But what happens when ownership is shared: more … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part V: Boundary Position Statements

Referee: Out of Bounds

“That is my desk. Please leave it alone.” “If you do that again, I will leave.” “I will not let myself be treated this way.” Have you ever said these things, or something similar? Most of us have, which is good. … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part IV: Boundary Attack Awareness

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Have you ever felt upset? What about: Angry? Indignant? Frustrated? Resentful? Battered? Agonized? Furious? I think that we all have. These emotions are part of the human experience. They are also signs of a Boundary Invasion. Now that we know what Boundaries … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part III: The Energy of Boundaries

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“That doesn’t feel good.” “Dammit, stop that!” “I’m leaving!” Have you ever said any of the above, or something very similar? I think that we all have. These statements are Defending Your Boundaries. How do we choose the appropriate defense … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part II: Defending Your Boundaries

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“He keeps crossing my boundary!” “She thinks I’ll put up with this.” “Why do I always let people take advantage of me?” “Why can’t I say no?” “I try to be nice, but all I get in return is more … Continue reading

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Personal Boundaries – Part I: An Introduction To Boundaries

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Do you have boundary problems? Have you been told that you need better boundaries? Do you have trouble understanding boundaries or defending your boundaries? You are not alone. I recall first hearing the word “boundaries” in about 1981. I finally … Continue reading

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Coping With Infidelity: It Is The Fear That Paralyzes

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You’ve found out that your spouse is cheating and suddenly your world is upside down. Nothing seems to be the same or work like it should. You suffer from insomnia. Your stomach is tied in knots. You are losing weight … Continue reading

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