Category Archives: Emotional Fulfillment

Unmet Expectations: The Killer of Romantic Love

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I think the Hollywood/romantic novel idea is more prevalent in our culture than in others. Finding the right person, realizing s/he is your “soul mate,” riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after…it all seems to lead to unrealistic and unmet … Continue reading

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Unrealistic Expectations: The Dysfunctional Myth of “Happily Ever After”

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Prompted by last year’s news coverage of Prince William’s marriage to Kate Middleton, I’ve decided to explicitly tackle the myth of a “Happily Ever After” that occurs after the wedding. The implicit assumption seems to be that one finds love, … Continue reading

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Healing vs. Curing

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On Marriage Advocates, we frequently discuss the importance of healing when a marriage has been broken. Prompted by something I read recently, I wonder if some interpret the suggestion “to heal” to mean “to cure” instead. I wonder if people mistakenly think … Continue reading

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Self-esteem and Insecurity: How They Relate to Your Marriage

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Many of us are familiar with emotional needs and how they relate to our spouses. In fact, given the opportunity, those of us with the most dysfunctional relationships could likely give a lecture about meeting emotional needs and their importance … Continue reading

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Finding Comfort in a Stormy Marriage and Beyond

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Are you in a stormy marriage? How can you tell? • Your husband tells you he’s in love with someone else. • Your wife says she “loves you but isn’t in love with you.” • You’re fighting all the time. … Continue reading

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The Most Selfish Demand

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I’ve referenced this quite often on our marriage forum, and I thought it was time to create an article specifically addressing the topic. This demand is the one someone who wishes to have a great marriage should avoid like the plague. … Continue reading

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Marriage Trouble: It’s Not the Size of the Boat; It’s How Often You Polish It

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Having marriage trouble or relationship difficulties? Is resentment rearing its ugly head? Do you want to move toward solving the problems and improving the relationship but believe your partner should start because s/he is to blame? I originally wrote this … Continue reading

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Listening Skills: Be Still

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Do conversations with your spouse sometimes lead to angry words and hurt feelings? Do you feel unheard and misunderstood by your spouse? Do the words “we need to talk” fill you with dread? If you answered “yes” to any of … Continue reading

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Validation and Invalidation – Part III: Pre-Validation

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The outcome of a challenging conversation is often determined well before any actual dialogue. Perhaps the single most important ingredient is the attitude one takes into it. The more empathetic an attitude you can adopt towards the other person beforehand, … Continue reading

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Validation and Invalidation – Part II: Validation

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To validate is to substantiate or confirm. We feel validated when we are heard and understood. In the context of this article, validation is when one person hears and understands the thoughts and feelings of another, and that person also … Continue reading

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