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What Should I Do When My Spouse Is Having An Affair?

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When your spouse is having an affair, your world becomes a confusing, scary place full of hurt, shame, and anger. You will wonder why this has happened and what action(s) to take. “Love is understood, in a historical way, as … Continue reading

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Anatomy Of an Affair: How Long Do Affairs Last?

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The question “How long do affairs last?” comes up in almost every discussion about affairs, for a variety of reasons. It is often one of the first questions asked by people who have recently discovered that their spouse has been … Continue reading

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Marriage Is A Team Sport: Becoming A Team Player

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Are you a team player? Successfully overcoming problems in a marriage is more often than not related to the ability of both spouses to see the marriage as something bigger than either one of them, and even bigger than the … Continue reading

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Anatomy of an Affair: The Chemistry of Love

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How and why do we fall in love? While love is most often described in magical terms, the emotion of love is created and sustained through biochemical processes in the body – most notably the brain. These biochemical processes are … Continue reading

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Peer Counseling – Part II: An Experiment In Peer Counseling

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Now that we’ve had a generalized discussion introducing the concept of Peer Counseling and exploring an overview of its history and use, I’d like to expand upon how Peer Counseling fits in with Marriage Advocates. As Marriage Advocates exists to … Continue reading

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Peer Counseling – Part I: What Is Peer Counseling?

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When I began to research peer counseling for this article, I thought I would find a lot of information that could easily be applied to our mission at Marriage Advocates.  I found very little in the way of general information about … Continue reading

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Unmet Expectations: The Killer of Romantic Love

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I think the Hollywood/romantic novel idea is more prevalent in our culture than in others. Finding the right person, realizing s/he is your “soul mate,” riding off into the sunset to live happily ever after…it all seems to lead to unrealistic and unmet … Continue reading

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Emotional Memory Management: Dealing with Triggers When Recovering from Infidelity

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One of the most difficult aspects of recovering a relationship from infidelity is dealing with our emotional reactions to triggers that remind us of the affair, affair partner, lies, and betrayal. Exposure to such triggers often causes an emotional reaction … Continue reading

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Anatomy of an Affair: Romantic Affairs

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Romantic Affairs are intense. Of all the basic types of affairs, none is so crazy as falling in love with someone who is not your spouse. Often the romantic affair partner is someone much younger or older, someone with even … Continue reading

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Anatomy of An Affair: Exit Affairs

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If philandering was once predominately a male form of adultery, exit affairs are perhaps the female equivalent. Most exit affairs are the result of women who have pronounced their marriage dead, even buried, while clinging to the security of the … Continue reading

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