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Why should I register?
By registering with the forum, you will be able to edit your member profile and preferences. You will get the most out of your time here if you change your profile and preferences to suit your individual tastes. There are many options in your profile to make your experience here more enjoyable, so please take a few moments to try the various settings. Also, only users that are registered and logged in can take advantage of the "New Posts" feature upon each visit. Once you've registered and logged in, click "Edit Profile" or "Edit Preference" in the Forum Navigation island to edit your settings.
Why do you ask for two email addresses?
The Email Address field is used for email notifications, Follow Lists and to email your password. The Public Email Address field is what other users see when they view your profile. We realize that you may not want everyone to know your real email address, but we need to know it in case you want to follow certain content or if you want to have replies emailed to you. For this reason you can give us your real email address in the Email Address field and only the Administrators of the forum will see it. You can provide a different email address for the general public using the Public Email Address. Some people like to put in something like firstname.lastname@example.org. This way people can still figure out what your real email address is, but spamming agents can't just parse through the page and obtain your email address to spam you.
Does my browser have to be set to accept cookies?
Yes. Cookies are used to remember your login information as well as what posts you have read during your current session. Without accepting cookies some functions won't work properly.
How do I log in?
If you have registered with these forums, you must log in to take advantage of the personalization of settings. To log in, look in the upper right-hand corner of your screen for the "Log In" link. This link will take you to a page where you can enter your Login Name (or email address) and Password. Keep in mind that the password is always case-sensitive. This means that the software considers "S" and "s" to be different characters.
Once you have entered your Login Name (or email address) and Password, you'll be brought to your Starting View. (You can change the page used for your Default Starting View by clicking "Edit Preferences" in the Forum Navigation island.) If you have any Private Messages waiting for you, you'll see a flashing envelope on the My Messages island. (Note that this only applies if the Private Messaging feature has been enabled by the Administrators of the forum.)
Help! I'm having trouble logging in!
This checklist may help you successfully log in:
Make sure you are entering your password correctly. Passwords are case-sensitive.
Ensure that your browser supports cookies; if so, check the security level you are using. High levels of security restriction in certain browsers will automatically reject cookies. In order to use the key features of these forums, you'll need to accept cookies. The maker of your browser can help you with additional problems you may have with your cookie settings.
Completely log out by hitting the Log Out link in the upper right-hand corner of the page, and then log back in again.
After logging in, you may have to hit the Reload or Refresh button on your browser to expedite the authentication.
If these steps don't work you can try purging your cookies for this site using the My Cookies tool.
If you continue to have problems, go to the Log In page and click "Have you forgotten your login information?". Enter your real email address into the Email Address field and a temporary password will be emailed to the email address used for the account setup.
What is the title that appears beneath my Display Name in posts?
It's a system-generated User Title to give ranking to your post count. You will progress through the various levels according to the cumulative number of posts you have made.
What are these titles about?
Everyone has a title within the forum. You will notice the title below the Display Name in each post. Some titles are automatically assigned based on the number of posts a user has made, and some titles are assigned by the forum owner to denote official representatives of the company or other VIPs in the forums.
0 New Member 25 Member 50 Member 100 Member 200 Member 400 Member 700 Member 1200 Member 1600 Member 2500 Member
I forgot my password!
If you have forgotten your password, don't worry! You can very easily have a temporary password emailed to you. Go to the Log In page and click "Have you forgotten your login information?". Enter your real email address into the email Address field and a temporary password will be emailed to the email address used for the account setup.
This process is safe because the password is only emailed to the original owner of the account. There is no way to steal the password by using this feature.
How do I change my password?
You may change your password any time. On the Forum Navigation island, click "Edit Profile". Edit the Password and Verify Password fields and then click "Submit" to save the information. (Keep in mind that passwords are case-sensitive.)
How do I add an image to my message?
In order to add an image to your message or your signature, you must have the image already available on a web server and reachable by a URL. This can be an image on your own personal web page, for example. To place an image within a message, simply use the following Markup Tag:
You can do the same for your signature. Click the My Home option found on any page. Then, under the Your Profile group, click on "Edit Profile". Look for the Signature box, and enter your desired information, including any images/markup as above.
Note: To keep the forums loading quickly for everyone, it is recommended that you do not exceed 35k for your image size.
Is there a limit to the size of an image I can have in my signature?
We ask that you keep your images relatively small. As a rule, please do not exceed 600 x 125 pixels and/or 35k for a signature image. This will ensure that the forums load quickly for all users.
What are the rules of conduct for the forum?
Terms of Service
Marriage Advocates' Terms of Service,
sometimes referred to as "TOS," govern your use of and
access to our Forums. The terms are dynamic and Marriage Advocates
reserves the right to revise them at any time. Said revisions
will become effective upon posting of the modified terms on the
Marriage Advocates' website.
By registering as a Member, you agree
to abide by these terms as revised from time to time. Any violation
of these terms may result in the suspension or termination of your
right to access the Forums and/or such other remedies as contained
These Forums are a free discussion
place where you can exchange information about marriage programs with
other Members, offer support and advice about marriage, and discuss
opportunities to promote marriage and strong families. Please note
that the Forums were launched so that our Members can interact and exchange their experiences and
marriage resources with one another. These are English language
Forums, but Members from all over the world are welcome.
No person is obligated to register in
order to access the Forums and read the message boards, with certain
exceptions. However, registration (via provision of a valid email
address, Member name and password) and login are required in order to
post to the message boards and adjust Member settings.
Marriage Advocates will handle all
information received from you in accordance with Marriage Advocates'
policy, but does reserve the right to release information as set
When you register, you will also be
asked to enter personal information. When choosing a Member name and
filling out your profile, bear in mind that whenever you post to a
message board, your Member name, link to your profile, and online
status will appear when you are on Marriage Advocates' site. Your
profile may display historical information such as “joined,”
“last visit” and number of posts.
Marriage Advocates may refuse to grant
you, and you may not use, a Member name (or email address) that is
already being used by someone else, impersonates another person,
belongs to another person (without his or her prior consent),
violates the intellectual property or other rights of any person, is
vulgar or otherwise offensive, or that Marriage Advocates rejects for
any other reason at its sole discretion.
Marriage Advocates' Moderators and
Although the Marriage Advocates' Member
Forums are moderated and Marriage Advocates does permit members to
give advice in the Member forums, this is not a replacement for
individual or marriage counseling and accordingly, there is no
guarantee that the advice will be helpful or that your questions will
Please note that Marriage Advocates
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to amendment from time to time. Marriage Advocates and its agents
reserve the right to investigate any violation of the Marriage
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Marriage Advocates has absolute
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limited to: warning Members of violations, disabling or suspending
message privileges and/or Forum access, deleting, screening or
editing any content, or prohibiting any behavior that does not comply
with these terms, including the rules set forth below, or which is
otherwise inappropriate for the Forums, harmful, objectionable, or
The determination of what conduct is
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sole discretion of Marriage Advocates and its agents.
If you want further information on the
moderation policies of Marriage Advocates, the Moderation Manual is
posted in the Welcome Forum.
Marriage Advocates permits Members to
post hypertext links to content hosted and maintained by third
parties. Although linked sites may or may not be reviewed by Marriage
Advocate moderators, links are subject to treatment like any other
type of content posted to the Forums. You may not include a link,
including embedded video/audio links, in the Forum that directs
Members to any content or information that, if posted in the Forum,
would constitute a violation of these terms without
an appropriate warning issued by the member posting. Our Administrators and Moderators are not responsible for posting warnings for a
As a Member, be advised that when
leaving the Forums using any link provided by a Member, Marriage
Advocates' terms and policies no longer govern, and, therefore, you
should review the applicable terms and policies of the linked site.
If you access a linked site and find the materials to be in
violation of these terms, you may report the link as described below.
Marriage Advocates makes no claim or representation regarding, and
accepts no responsibility for, the quality, content, nature or
reliability of sites accessible by hyperlink from the Forums.
Marriage Advocates provides a specific
forum where controversial subjects may be discussed. Thunderdome has
been created to discuss and debate issues and topics not appropriate
for other Forums, specifically but not limited to meta debates and
discussions that tend to erupt in threads meant to provide advice to
those in need.
Entrance to Thunderdome is automatic
upon signature to this Marriage Advocates Terms of Service and will
activate after the posting of at least 25 posts in other Forums.
Members read and participate in Thunderdome discussions at their own
Moderation rules are specifically
different in Thunderdome from those applicable in other Forums and
are as set out at the top of that forum and in the Moderator Manual, the link to which is provided
elsewhere in this Terms of Service.
We encourage you to use caution and not
reveal information that you do not want to make public in your
postings. Any personal information that you post can be obtained and
used by others. Anything you post in the Forums, you post at your own
risk. You use the Forums at your own risk. In any online Forum like
the Marriage Advocates Forums, it is not possible to be sure that
other Members are who they say they are, know what they say they
know, or are affiliated with whom they say they are affiliated.
By participating in the Forums,
including the posting of content and sending of messages, you agree
that you will not upload, post, embed, or otherwise transmit any
content (including text, links, communications, software, images,
videos, sounds, data, or other information) that:
(i)is unlawful, harmful, threatening,
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vulgar, profane, sexually explicit, obscene, racially or ethnically
offensive or otherwise objectionable;
(ii)reflects personal information of
any kind, from whatever source derived, about any Member not publicly
disclosed by that Member without the express written consent of that
Member secured prior to such disclosure;
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promotion, junk mail, "spamming," chain letters, or any
other form of unauthorized solicitation;
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horses, worms, time bombs, cancelbots or any other computer code or
files that are designed to disrupt, damage, or limit the functioning
of any software or hardware;
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operation of the Forums or attempts to turn help threads into venues for meta-discussions;
(vii)impersonates any person or entity,
or forges any TCP-IP packet header, e-mail header or any part of a
(viii)attacks or insults another Forum
Member by any method including, but not limited to, ridicule, badgering,
slander, innuendo, insinuation or any technique intended to
discredit, defame or slander another member or person;
(ix)suggests or encourages illegal
(x)violates US or international laws or
In plain English, this board is not,
and never will be, a place to engage in name calling, personal
attacks or accusations of a personal nature. Characterizations of
someone's posts as not worthy are specifically prohibited.
opinions are encouraged, but not in the form of disparaging or
discrediting the opinions of others.
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Marriage Advocates, its subsidiaries, officers, and agents,
Administrators, Moderators, and Advisory Board members harmless from
any claim, including reasonable Attorneys' fees, made by any third
party due to or arising out of content you submit, post, transmit or
make available through the Forums, your use of the Forums, your
violation of these terms, or your violation of any rights of another
Release of Information
Marriage Advocates may release
information concerning your use of the Forums (including posted
content, registration information, and network records) when Marriage
Advocates believes release is appropriate to comply with any
applicable law, or:
(i)to protect Marriage Advocates'
rights or property, or;
(ii)to protect Marriage Advocates'
Members from fraudulent, abusive, or unlawful use of the Forums or;
(iii)if Marriage Advocates reasonably
believes that an emergency involving immediate danger of death or
serious physical injury to any person requires disclosure of
communications or justifies disclosure of records without delay.
Any deliberate attempt by you or
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termination of your rights to use the Forums violates these terms,
constitutes an unlawful trespass, and may result in legal action, or
such other remedy as Marriage Advocates shall seek or apply.
This is Marriage Advocates' Terms
of Service as approved by the Board of Directors of Marriage
Advocates, Inc. a Texas Non-Profit Corporation
and is subject to the laws of the State of Texas and for all legal
purposes, is located in Dallas County.
September 20, 2011 replaces previous version.
How do I edit my display preferences?
Yes, you'll be missing a trick if you fail to take advantage of the versatility offered. There are many aspects of how the Forums are displayed that may be customized. On the Forum Navigation island, click "Edit Preferences".
You can choose the style in which you wish to view the forums, how many posts are displayed on each page, whether or not you want to view users' pictures alongside their posts, and much more. Once saved, these become your default settings. You may edit these preferences again at anytime.
Why is a post's subject so important?
The first post of a given topic establishes the subject by which all subsequent replies will be known. Once there's been a reply, the topic subject cannot be subsequently changed. It's therefore important to get the subject right from the outset. Make it as descriptive and as specific as possible. For example, "LCD burn-in questions", is much better than something completely generic, such as "Newbie needs help!". Not only is it more likely to elicit a response, but it'll also make it much easier for all posts in the topic to be subsequently located.
How do I find posts that may already have the answer to the question I have?
One of the key benefits of the discussion forum format is that it enables commonly asked questions to be answered once, for the benefit of all. Before posting your question, it is always worth checking to see if it has already been asked - and answered! You can do this via the Search island. Using the Search island, you can perform a quick keyword search, or click on the "Advanced" button to search by more specific criteria. Various options are available, both for how the search term is specified and for controlling how many forums you want to search. This is where the specificity of topic subjects is important, making it much easier to locate precisely what it is you're after from a list of search results.
What does the flashing envelope icon on the My Messages link in the Navigation Island indicate?
It means that you have unread Private Messages. When you hover over this image it should display how many unread Private Messages that you have.
Can I send a Private Topic to more than one person?
On the "New Message" page, you can type in a new user then press "Add" or you can select them from the "Friend List" dropdown. You can add up to the forum maximum of users (this limit will show on the "Private Messages" page) to the Private Topic.
I'm having problems getting the URL tags to work.
If the tags are showing up in your text or you're getting a link, but it's to "http:///", you're including some unwanted spaces in the syntax. Avoid any intervening spaces, and everything will work fine.
What if I make a mistake in my post?
Users can edit their own posts up to minutes after they are made. Where the change is substantial, it is courteous mark the post as edited so as to alert readers to the changed content. For cosmetic changes, it's better not to do so.
What if I post in the wrong forum?
Let the forum Administrator or Moderator know - he/she will be able to move it for you.
Can I use HTML in my posts?
There are 2 ways that this can be configured on a per-forum basis. If HTML is On then you will see HTML is On and you can use normal HTML in your posts. If UBBCode is on you will see UBBCode is On.
What UBBCode can I use in my posts?
The following tags are available for your use if UBBCode is enabled:
Text Formatting [b] text [/b] = Makes the given text bold. [i] text [/i] = Makes the given text italic. [u] text [/u] = Underlines the given text. [s] text [/s] = Will post your text with a line through it (strike through). [color:red] text [/color] = Makes the given text red. [color:#4caf50] text [/color] = Makes the given text green.
[size:20pt] text [/size] = Will change the size of the text to whatever size value you specify. [font:Comic Sans MS] text [/font] = Will post your text with the specified font.
Links [email] email@example.com [/email] = Makes the given email address clickable. [email= firstname.lastname@example.org ] text [/email] = Makes the given email address clickable. [url] link [/url] = Makes the given url into a link. [url= link ] title [/url] = Makes the given title into a hyperlink pointing to link. [img] link [/img] = Embeds an image.
Code Tags & Highlighting [code] text [/code] = Surrounds the given text with pre format tags. [php] text [/php] = Passes the text through the PHP Syntax Highlighter [highlight] text [/highlight] = Will highlight your text. [spoiler] text [/spoiler] = Will wrap your text in a spoiler container. Users must click a button in order to see this text, thus giving them the ability to specify if they want to read the item. [spoiler:warning] text [/spoiler] = Will wrap your text in a spoiler container and allow you to specify the warning message displayed. Users must click a button in order to see this text, thus giving them the ability to specify if they want to read the item.
Text and Image Alignment [align:left|center|right] text [/align] = Will align the text in the direction defined. [img:left|center|right] Image URL [/img] = Will allow you to allow text to wrap on the specified side of your image.
[/list] = Makes a bullet list. [list=A] or [list=1] will make order/numbered lists. Other options include: circle, i, I, a, A, 1, disc, square. [quote] text [/quote] = Surrounds the given text with blockquote and hr's. This UBBCode tag is used for quoting a reply. [quote=username] text [/quote] = Surrounds the given text with blockquote and hr's. This UBBCode tag is used for quoting a reply. The username specified will be shown as quoted.
How do I put a poll in my post?
Putting a poll in your post is simple.
If polls are enabled, start by creating a new post in a forum. Below the body of your post, you will see a text box that allows you to specify how many polls you want to have in your post and the system will guide you through the rest.
How do I change the number of posts displayed on a page?
You can change the number of posts displayed on each page by editing your display preferences. You can set this to anything between 1 and 99 posts per page. By default, this is set to 25 posts per page.
What's the difference between Reply and Quick Reply?
Quick Reply is made as a "Quick Response" block, so you can make a response to a post (or thread) before you forget or as you read them. Quick Reply is meant as a "no thrills" response box, as it's just there for a fast/non-formatted response.
Reply however brings you to a "Full Response" page that allows for heavy posting.
You can also click the "Full Reply" button from the Quick Reply box which will forward you (and all of your Quick Reply text) to the Full Reply page.
What's the difference between Quote and Quick Quote?
Quote will quote the users text to the Full Reply page. Quick Quote will quote the users text to the Quick Reply box below the thread.
How do I edit my profile?
Click on your Display Name (located in the top-right of every forum page) and select the "Edit Profile" link.
How do I use Gallery Forums?
Using Gallery Forums are just like using any other forums... However, you can post images too!
After you create your post (subject and post, both required) you can click on the "Image Manager" link.
Adding images are as easy as:
1. Click "Browse" and a navigation area will appear that shows your computers files, navigate around to locate the image you'd like to upload. Once located, click on the image and select "open"; you can also choose to add a description (note that in v7.2 you do not have the option to change the description once another image is added).
2. If you wish to add another image, repeat step one; otherwise, select "done".
From here, just press submit, and your new "Gallery Posting" should appear for users to comment on your image(s).
Can I attach a file to my post?
When creating a new thread or response, you'll see a "Attachment Manager" link on the "Full Reply" or "New Post" page. When selecting this option you'll receive a popup which will allow you to attach files to your post.
1. Click "Attachment Manager" to bring up the "Attachment" window.
2. Click "Browse" to bring up the file browser window; this will allow you to browse your computer for any files or images you wish to upload; please note that you're bound by whatever the "allowed file type" setting is for the forum.
3. Click "Open" on the file you wish to upload.
4. Enter a descriptive caption for that file (optional).
5. Click "Upload" to add another file, or "Done Adding Files" to close the window and complete your posting.
Please note that you must enter some text in both the "subject" and "post" fields when responding otherwise you will receive an error; you cannot just respond with an attachment ;).
How do Follow Lists work?
Subscribing to a Forum
Enter the Forum and Select "Follow Forum" from the "Forum Options" dropdown.
Subscribing to a Thread
Enter the thread and Select "Follow Thread" option from the "Thread Options" dropdown.
Managing Follow Lists
Select a "Follow Lists" group from the "My Account" menu, from here you can select the type of List that you wish to edit and by clicking the "Edit Followed Threads" (or "Edit Followed Forums" or "Edit Followed Users") link you can remove them or toggle the "Email Notification" option.
Toggling Emailed Follow Lists
See the above "Managing Follow Lists" directions.
Toggling the Default "Email Followed List" Options
Select "Preferences" from the "My Account" menu. From here you can manage the "By default should anything added to your Follow Lists be emailed to you?" option.
How do I email myself a Thread or Private Message?
Emailing a Post or Thread
To email a post, simply navigate to the post and select "email post" from the bottom set of buttons (near reply, quote, notify, etc).
From this "email post" screen, you can select to mail yourself:
Just this post
This post and all replies
The entire thread
Emailing a Private Topic
When viewing a Private Message, simply click the "Email Topic" button from the bottom set of buttons (near reply, quote, etc).
How do I use RSS Feeds?
RSS Feeds for Forums
For forums that have an RSS Feed configured for them, you can enter the forum and select the feed link from the "Forum Options" dropdown.
If the administration has enabled the "RSS Feeds" option, you can manage RSS feeds from the "RSS Feeds" link in the "My Account" dropdown in the navigation area.
From the RSS Feeds area you can see all of the RSS Feeds available to you, including all of the forums that have individual feeds. You will also be able to retrieve the feeds for your inbox and the global feeds for recent topics. Please note that these may or may not be available based on admin preferences.
What do the different Display Name colors mean?
The username colors generally specify a users status. Some select users can can also have special colors signified by the Administration.
The default user status colors are: Administration Global Moderator Moderator Search Engine Robot
What do the numbers in parenthesis next to the "Post Numbers" mean?
The numbers in parenthesis indicate how many new topics (or posts) have been made since your last visit to the forums.