Things are looking up and looking up in my favor..
I have been trying to be positive throughout this whole ordeal with the XH and it has finally
come around to my positive side of thinking...
MY HOUSE IS NOW PENDING!
I'm going to be having a very overwhelming next few weeks.
The Closing date is the last week of April.
Anyway between 2 Birthdays, Easter, many doctors' appointments, dealing with Inspectors, Appraisers, packing, moving,
renting a storage unit, getting things shut off/changed then on top of all that planning a baby shower which will be
the following week after the Closing.
Sheesh! I'm already exhausted just thinking about it.
I maybe overwhelmed and stressed out but I am determined and also very excited!
I have requested not to be scheduled for work on Fridays and Saturdays of the month of April and the first week of May.
My son doesn't work those days and he is the main person who will be assisting me with the move to his house.
I will be staying there until I can find a new home of my own, which my friend L the realtor is now aggressively in search of finding.
She has found a few that I am very interested in and in my price range.
I can afford to look into higher price home but I don't want to be cash poor.
I need a substantial savings as a little security blanket.
I always had a considerable amount in savings and won't feel comfortable not having that.
So speaking of my friend, L...
the plan I had hopefully would work out...
L being she had come into first to list the house, well tired to list it last year around this time.
She was basically forced out by XH's bullsh*t but I can gladly state that she is now back in the picture.
She was contacted by the Buyers that I had suggested that they contact.
Now L will at least get 1/2 the commission of the sale of the house.
I feel she so deserve it for what she had to put up with and not getting any payment for all her efforts of trying to list the house..
Well the buyer is the brother of my daughter's good friend. He had mentioned to my daughter that his brother and wife where
coming to the last Open House that was held last month.
Well, trying to make a long story shorter it came down to the buyer asking his brother to ask me if I would be willing to have him contact me.
I agreed and he contacted me a few days later.
Well during the conversation he and I discussed the price and we came to a agreement on an offer.
I agreed to a lower price for the fact that I could be at risk of the court order realtor = CC reducing the price a lot more over time
and I would lose even more than what the buyer was willing to pay.
I also suggest he get in contact with L the realtor since he was not working with a realtor at that time.
I told the Buyer that she would help him with everything he needed to do to with no cost to him.
I also told him that she was also working with me to find me a new home.
So now he is now working with L to purchase the house hence of her being back in part of in the sale of the house.
I of course had a hidden agenda and for a few reasons.
1. L deserves some kind of payment for her past efforts as I have mentioned and getting so harassed by XH.
2. CC would have to spilt the commission for she surly does not deserve to collect that whole commission.
3. XH is NOT going to be very happy about L being back involved especially how L had put XH in his place
when he tried to intimidate and control her of the listing of the house.
L wanted to stay on but she couldn't deal with XH's bullsh*t.
I had found out more on what conspired between them which was a lot more than I was aware of.
XH was calling her all late hours of the night just to scream at her and accusing her of things, ECT.
It got so bad she just had enough and that's when the court order realtor was assigned.
Oh then not only being that buyer is my daughter's friend's brother it turns out that me, L and the buyer's in laws had graduated together.
So when they came back up to relook at the house he's in-laws came with making it some what of a high school union.
They are also fully aware of the situation with me and the XH and do not think highly of him on what he did.
L had told me that the buyer, wife and his in laws were very concerned to the point to ask where I was going to do and where I was going to stay?
Also comments where made about what a scumbag thing XH had done.
Well I decided to be very nice to CC to the point that I had even apologized to her for giving her a hard time.
I sort of played that sympathy card with her as well.
CC had to come up for me to sign and go over the paper work on the Offer,
I was very, very nice to her and when I think back I was sicken nice to her, lol
Probley made her head spin being I have been so awful to her throughout the whole ordeal.
Anyway when she was starting to leave we were standing in the front doorway.
I held the front screen door open as we continue talking with her standing on the porch.
I said to her that I apologize for giving her such a hard time but with the circumstances it was very difficult and that it was a very stressful,
and painful situation with KF living right in my face with the OW.
I may have played it out a lot more on how much the situation bothered me, but honestly I have come to terms with it that it really doesn't bother me.
Also I know the outcome that it will eventually crash and burn between the XH and OW.
I can see it happening now with on how the XH acts and thigs he says.
Anyway she responded that she too had gone through a bad divorce and was sorry, that she can't even imagine what I had to deal with being so close.
I mentioned to her yes, "XH basically sh*t where he slept".
As we were talking I had notice we were being watched (but of course) which I had mention to the CC (realtor) that we were.
When she gradually turned she had witness this as well.
I told her yes, this is a constant thing and if she looked you can see there is also a security camera that it's pointed directly at the house.
That they see my coming and goings and that I have no privacy at all.
She replied that I was basically being stalked and how unbelievable this was.
I figure I will be really nice to her for the simple fact that when we do the Closing XH will expect me to be nasty to the CC as XH knows that I had been during the whole process.
Also CC had informed XH that OW is not allowed to be any part of this process as I had requested.
I did thank CC for informing him of this.
So XH going into this he really will not have any support from anyone and will basically be sitting there by himself.
Also being OW can not be present to speak up for him it will be even more uncomfortable and stressful for him.
I can see him now biting his nails and keeping his head down, squirming in his chair.
Then once when he sees that me and L are very well acquainted with the buyers this only adds to the icing on the cake.
But I will conduct myself with dignity and I will not lower myself with making any kind of comments or rubbing it in his face...
that will be achieved without any help from me.
Of course I'll be enjoying this completely but only in my own thoughts.
So I guess I am seeing somewhat of a payback on what XH has done and caused.
Not to only me but to others as well especially my kids.
So maybe this may help him wake up to the reality on what he has given up and what he has lost
and see that the OW has not given up a DAM thing.
But by these choices were all caused by his own doing.
I am moving on and I am living my life as I see fit.
I have so much to look forward to.
I am a happier and have learned so much from this that it has helped me to become a better person.
I really, really like this person I have become and still becoming...
which I plan on keeping around.