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When Is Porn Use a Problem? - Psychology Today #432773
02/23/18 03:11 AM
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The Dark Side of the Moon
by Grant Hilary Brenner, M.D.

Pornography is becoming ubiquitous and ever more sophisticated. Gone are the days of erotic wood carvings. Gone are the days of XXX cinema in seedy neighborhoods with furtive and lurid shapes in the fog. Gone are the days of print media and pin-up girls. Pornography plus internet equals a ginormous "sexplosion" of erotica, prerecorded, real-time, virtual reality, and more—confronting flesh-and-blood interpersonal relationships with compelling alternatives, which for many prove more desirable, ultimately superior, and equally, if not more, clandestine. I predict that by the end of the 21st century, sex will finally come out of the closet—and it will fundamentally change what being a human being means.

In their recently published work, Daspe, Vaillancourt-Morel, Lussier, Sabourin and Ferron (2018) investigate important questions regarding pornography use. Pornography use is going up in frequency and plays an increasingly significant and pervasive role in society. Setting aside questions of morality, direct and indirect harm, pornography use is seen by many relationship experts as being both potentially healthy or potentially destructive to individuals and couples.

How Do Relationship Circumstances Shape Pornography's Impact?

However, up until now the research on pornography has not looked at how overall relationship and sexual satisfaction affects the frequency of pornography use or the extent to which pornography users experience distress associated with pornography use. More abusive and violent pornography also shapes attitudes about gender and sexuality, and can negatively affect relationships and contributed to harm, though men reporting both positive and negative effects from pornography attribute greater positive effects overall, and young men greater negative effects than older men (Miller et al., 2017). Studies have also shown that pornography use may mis-wire reward circuits, causing sexual dysfunction, and re-enforcing dependence on porn (Park et al., 2016).

Daspe and colleagues note many points which are now common knowledge. Pornography use is on the rise, and diversifying. When it becomes destructive, it leads to distress, loss out of control, and negatively impacts relationships. For some, internet pornography use becomes persistent. According to researchers, 17 percent of pornography users are compulsive (Cooper, Delmonico & Berg, 2000), leading to distress and dysfunction. In other work (Grubbs et al., 2015; Blais-Lecours et al., 2016), feeling out of control is only partly due to higher frequency of use, with correlations between the two ranging from weak to strong.

But we don't know why that is, or what factors connect frequency and perceived loss of control. It's easy to understand why someone who uses porn more than they want to, or feels conflict about it, or fears consequences, would perceive losing control even with relatively low levels of porn use. On the other hand, someone who doesn't have any problem with pornography may be a frequent user and be as happy as can be. In the research review here, the role of relationship and sexual satisfaction for couples is examined as a factor in determining how frequency of use and perceived lack of control connect...

When Is Porn Use a Problem?

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Re: When Is Porn Use a Problem? - Psychology Today [Re: AntigoneRisen] #432839
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This article explains my Ex-H very clearly. I knew his porn had become a severe problem when his abusive behaviors escalated and 4 times a day wasn't enough sex for him. I became a piece of property that he "owned" instead of a partner.

I would advise anyone with a porn problem to get help if things are getting out of control. There is a fine line between enjoying certain aspects and becoming an abusive and controlling monster. Most relationships can be salvaged and repaired when two partners work together to create a better relationship. But it does take two willing people to create a new relationship together.

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