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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: believer] #100792
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I wonder if you can go back and edit instead of remaining a pottymouth?

I'll check it out.......

I'm not a pottymouth any more. smile

Yep!

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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: LivingWell] #100794
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That's CHEATING!


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: believer] #100796
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Ha! grin

Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: believer] #100833
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Happy Belated Birthday Believer!!

Thanks for the update...that is encouraging!

I like being a pottymouth wink


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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: flowmom] #100854
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believer! believer! believer! believer!

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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: Larry] #100858
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Happy Birthday! sorry I missed it!!

Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: hoosiermama] #100860
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Happy belated-by-one-day Birthday, Believer!

Nice graphics, Larry. Very pretty!

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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: LovingAnyway] #100984
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Happy Belated Birthday, Believer. smile

Thank you for being courageous and doing the right thing for these children. Too often we lean in the direction of dismissing our own instincts, in favor of what is socially acceptable. You did the right thing, even though I know it must have caused you personal stress trying to come to terms with what you had to do.

I think, too, that this showed your son something about his mother too. Something very important.


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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: soolee] #104775
05/11/11 11:42 PM
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Happy belated birthday! Thanks for being a never-tiring cheerleader for so many!


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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: NewEveryDay] #131731
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So, I'm going to Seattle in the next couple of weeks and the girls and their mom are moving into my house while I'm gone. It will help me because I have a birds, a dog and a cat, and a yard that will need care.

My son and the mom are in a parenting class, are doing counseling and family counseling. They will still be supervised by social services for another year.

The girls are thrilled because they each have their own room and it's a big house with a yard. They have been living in a studio apartment all of their lives. The three year old keeps asking me if I'm going to leave the TV, the couch, the refrigerator, my phone. She is very cute.

I'm hoping that everything will work out. I've had the girls almost everyday this summer and they are both good girls.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: believer] #131732
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It sounds lovely....

Aren't you afraid that they won't leave after you return home? grin

Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: LivingWell] #131736
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Those kids - and their mom - are very lucky to have you and their grandfather in their lives.

It's also really nice to see that your son is taking responsibility and joining his gf in the counseling.

Thank you for taking such good care of all of them smile


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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: CajunRose] #131742
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I blame my son as much as his girlfriend. He wasn't raised like that. I met GF's mom last month, and she was never in her kids' life. The dad raised them, so GF doesn't really have a role model.

But my son is picking up the slack. He gets home earlier than she does, so he has been pitching in and fixing dinner and trying to do his share. I think they both got scared that she could lose her girls.

I'm cautiously optimistic.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: believer] #131745
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Sounds good!

Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: catperson] #131847
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Hi B!

How long are you going to be in Seattle? Will you be heading up north at all? It would be fun to get together if you have the time.






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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: johnstwin] #131888
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JT - I'm going up there to take care of my mom. She is very sick with cancer. My sis lives on Camano Island, so I'll be close to you.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: believer] #131955
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I'd love to meet you...even if just to give you some support in it all, if you want. Just send me a PM or a message on FB and I'll give you my phone number. Heading into Seattle isn't a big deal for me and I have lots of time during summer break-especially now that all my kids are out of school... smile


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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: believer] #131956
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I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. *hugs*


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Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: Jayne241] #132029
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Hope your mom gets better!

Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: catperson] #427735
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Hi believer I was up sick and reading old threads. Poor Katie what a life she's had. Are things any better for her now?


"I have everything I need." and "I am exactly where I am supposed to be." ~Louise Hays
Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: NewEveryDay] #427740
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How time flies, NED.

Katie is doing much better and the whole situation was permanently resolved. Son, daughter-in-law and Katie had some individual and family counseling.

I've tried very hard to be a good role model and friend to my DIL and she realizes that she got out of control. Her step-mother (married to her father) has been helping, too, from a more spiritual perspective.

Anyway, Katie is healthy and happy, has lots of friends, does well in school and is heavily involved in cheer leading and church. I still think she's going to be a handful in the teen years because she's got a mind of her own and a flair for drama and adventure.

Chloe, the middle child is doing well, too, with close friends, good grades and a passion for the local kids' roller derby. She's got a crush on a pastor's son, so has been hitting the local church youth group, summer camp, outreach to the homeless.

The youngest, Lauren (called La-la after HERF) will be 3 next month. She's doing great and is excited about starting preschool next month. DIL has been a SAHM for 3 years but is going back to work soon.

La-la is a great joy and I've started teaching her how to read. She's very excited. When he dad came to pick her up last night she told him she couldn't go because she was doing her preschool work.


"I feel sad that I focused so much on his potential and so little on mine."
Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: believer] #427741
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Believer that's so awesome to hear about your son DiL and all 3 girls. And that's awesome you get to enjoy them too :-)


"I have everything I need." and "I am exactly where I am supposed to be." ~Louise Hays
Re: Possible child abuse -What would you do? [Re: NewEveryDay] #427742
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I also wanted to know how things were going. Good update.

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