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Need help getting IC #418209
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I believe I need to get IC. I'm dealing with uncertainty and trust issues with my spouse and I need someone to help sort my thinking.


How do I find someone who is "right"?

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I did a google search along with word of mouth. Once I had a couple of names, I looked to see if there were any reviews on the person. That is the best way to do a process of elimination without actually seeing the person.

However, once you choose one, if you think they are not providing what you need, then don't be afraid to jump ship and find another one.

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Psychology Today magazine has a national listing with info on each counselor, including their specialty and what insurance they accept. Just plug in your city, state, ZIP code and you'll get listings near you. Good luck.

https://therapists.psychologytoday.com

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The Psychology today listings is how I found my therapist. And it worked out brilliantly.

Granted I was looking for something specific. And was willing to travel a bit to get it. But still, I got a very good therapist!


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
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Ty for the site and the advice on picking the right one for me.

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That's a great endorsement, Miranda. I have to believe Psychology Today would do some kind of vetting for that list. Has to beat going through the phone book. Even asking your doctor for a referral is risky! Many years ago, I asked mine to recommend someone. The guy he suggested turned out to be a perv... shocked apparently with more issues than I had. After obscene phone calls from him I swore off "therapy" for years afterward.

Gotta be careful.

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My husband went through his physician's group too, and I have to say that his therapist seems like a straight up idiot. She got into a discussion of politics IN session with my husband!!!

It's pretty much all over now. He's checked out, because obviously their politics don't line up. I think he's quitting as of today. Where was the professionalism? wtf? I'm so mad. I'm sure he'll never try this again. It just makes me irate. I have to take myself to my quiet part of my mind and just reset for a minute every time I think about it.


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
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I also googled therapists + my city + reviews and picked the one with the best review. And had good results.


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