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WuD? - Moving on. #414528
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Checking out this blog, my situation fits here better.
Crazy month starting up school - running Homecoming. We painted 360 square feet of travel posters (legit art) for Homecoming theme.

Trying to finish up house plaster/repaint, too. Going back together slowly...
Now that it is all done - have been offered a PILE to sell. Cash.

Need some sleep! WuD?


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Originally Posted By: whatsupdoc?
Checking out this blog, my situation fits here better.
Crazy month starting up school - running Homecoming. We painted 360 square feet of travel posters (legit art) for Homecoming theme.

Trying to finish up house plaster/repaint, too. Going back together slowly...
Now that it is all done - have been offered a PILE to sell. Cash.

Need some sleep! WuD?


First, yes your story is better here now. I like to read about my peps here on the blogs instead of on the Infidelity thread. It just feels better. So congrats on that decision.

Second, you got an offer on your house just out of the blue? That is amazing! How did that come about?

What are your thoughts? You want to sell or you want to stay?

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Is this your home or your investment?

Either way what a good reflection on you.

Still you know there is more work to be done on the house, right?

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Next door lady (land lord) bought and was "fixing" up the house across the street.
When I was working outside, she came over "How did you get this house?".

I bought it one day before going on market - it had 6 visits sched for first day. I met owner's girlfriend, I immediately wrote an offer that afternoon. Started measuring the next day.

Landlady offered a cash sale. She handed me her card, said she wanted first notice when I go to sell. Wanted to get inside then, I refrained (mess) She still catches up.

With that, I could probably clear $110,000 - with upgrades, now. But I have invested over $30,000 - still by any standards good return on your money.

I feel like I am going to hibernate once the painting/plaster is done for 6 - 8 months. I've lived with plastic over everything for about 2 months - and am about 85% finished with repair
(When you rewire a house, the demolition is almost as bad as the actual electricity labor.)


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On another note, I adopted a Maine Coon black/silver Mackeral young adult male. He. is. STUNNING. Looks like a snow lynx.
check them out.

We just painted basement floor (filled and painted it with garage epoxy - :P) So, now he is down there, hiding in the (newly cleaned) joist spaces. Meowing like a heathen. LOVE IT. Coons "chirp" and "caterwaul".

Owner did not know what she was getting into... He is about 1 1/2 years old. GLAD to adopt him. Very welcome. As long as he does not eat Birdie....

This is the color. He looks just like this. Should be around 25 pounds when grown.

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Beautiful cat.

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Originally Posted By: whatsupdoc?
Next door lady (land lord) bought and was "fixing" up the house across the street.
When I was working outside, she came over "How did you get this house?".

I bought it one day before going on market - it had 6 visits sched for first day. I met owner's girlfriend, I immediately wrote an offer that afternoon. Started measuring the next day.

Landlady offered a cash sale. She handed me her card, said she wanted first notice when I go to sell. Wanted to get inside then, I refrained (mess) She still catches up.

With that, I could probably clear $110,000 - with upgrades, now. But I have invested over $30,000 - still by any standards good return on your money.

I feel like I am going to hibernate once the painting/plaster is done for 6 - 8 months. I've lived with plastic over everything for about 2 months - and am about 85% finished with repair
(When you rewire a house, the demolition is almost as bad as the actual electricity labor.)


You should be proud of yourself WUD. I know I'm proud of you. thumbsup

That offer is a compliment but you still have to decide if this is your retirement home or just a home for now.

FYI: Check with those who are watching the housing market. Selling times make be different. Waiting a couple of years may have different consequences.

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After an exhausting weekend, I barely kept my eyes open during school - uuuugh.

All I could think about was going home and taking a nap. Saw how screwed up the house still is -- sooooooo, skim coating bathroom ceiling instead (try to do something everyday, no matter how big or little a task, to get it done..)

In a fit of creative, I did a knock down plaster technique (skip coat Venetian) on one accent wall in the main bathroom ( I saw a video on "This Old House.") Just - decided to go for it. In the 1920'2 they did knock down - but this is a little different.


I hope it turns out - so far, so good. the wallboard was pretty wrecked, anyway in there - instead of hours skim coating flat - I'll try this.

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Your cat really does look like a Lynx!! Such a beautiful animal.

WuD, with all your hard work and great design taste, you could stay where you're at and buy another house and then fix it up and sell it. Then you wouldn't be moving all the time. And you would stay busy with all your projects but have a restful and finished place to go to each night. Or you could start your own design business on the side....

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I have become very attached to this place. I don't see me living there forever, but I definitely see me keeping it - (giving it to kid or running it as a rental.)
It is only going to increase value, as my area it only going up.

The Venetian looks good - now I have to figure how to color. BUT it is not exactly 1920's - but it is "Granny chic". It was nice to look at the wall and NOT see the old repair. the old "wobble" the old bad patching....
But Venetian's set off alarms in my head (uh, oh- trouble here.)

Since I am installing a section of 1920 wooden ladder floor to ceiling as my towel bar (space is an issue-) I certainly don't want it looking too southwest (adobe and log ladder- ish) kwim?


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Re: WuD? - Moving on. [Re: whatsupdoc?] #414748
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OMG. OMG.
Home Depot has a brand new foam sheet insulation (think pink) - but it's purple - and it is so dense that it can be carved into.
For relief sculptures, block printing. Cuts with exacto. CHEAP. I was amazed. Told a confused shop guy, told the check out clerk, told my family....

(Teachers have gotten away from block printing due to cost. REALLY a shame, these kids can not visualize 3d froms vs 2d shapes. If you do not believe me, come teach 2 point perspective to my basic classes. Enough to drive you crazy (I don't see it, I don't see it.)

You can tell I'm an art teacher at heart.....


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I love passion. I don't care what it is the person is passionate about, but I love seeing passion ooze out of people. It's true happiness. Go with it!!

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I love the passion too......but the details are lost on me. Reading your post WUD I heard noise like on Charlie Brown. LOL.....

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lol, SW.

That happens to me sometimes too..


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
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You could have a lot of fun doing the block printing for cheap again. Didn't used to be that way. Cheap means students can learn from mistakes too! smile

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Then why read them?


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DD2: 20
30 year partnership...

M: Dec, 1987
Bomb: May 12, 2014
D: Oct, 2015
Ratz.
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The skip coat turned out beautifully. I painted with 3 shades of mushroom brown/ tan. Dry brushed tips with white.

Wow, who knew? Why is painting a bathroom more work than painting a living room?

Spending today cleaning, organizing and (hopefully) putting it all back together on the first and basement floors. What a journey. New electrical, plaster/paint. - re leveled/repainted basement floor and stain blocked walls. HUGE effort.

About 9 weeks, now, in total. Around $2,800 this project. (Under $3,200 for sure). I assume total done (with others) would be @ $18K to $20K.

Standing back and looking - I got so much done in 11 months...new plumbing/new kitchen/new 1/2 bath, stone on front, side porch, stairs, floors- major drywall, fence gate, paint deck, cedar closets, brand new/old fixtures - entire house, new/old front door, new/old storm door, porch rejuvenation. New insulation in crawls/basement -- just huge. Even though I spent mad cash -- I consider every dime, even the boo- boo's - very much worth it.

Only thing not done -- next year -- gutters at some point...

Trying to put it all back so /I can fully enjoy the holidays.... tell me to stop looking cross eyed at the lower bathroom... lol

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Originally Posted By: whatsupdoc?
Then why read them?


Not sure if this was meant for me since I said I didn't understand that post of yours about supplies from Home Depot....

But I read your posts because you are interesting and I love your passion for your projects.

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Block printing is particularly intriguing to me. I was ready to zip over to Home Depot just to go buy some of the purple foam insulation sheets. I've used the pink foam sheets before, but not the purple. I love art, but I'm not the Pro artist/designer that you are by any means. I can "carve" it to fit in between 2x4's though!

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You can also get a heat knife - i bet will carve like buttah. They were making christmas tree ornaments with the kids - but I want to carve a gargoyle. You can glue many sheets together... than coat it to look like stone..

hehehehehehehehehehehe.

It's called Foamular..

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UUUgh. Cleaning up after all that plaster/paint is a pain in the arse too. Even the dog left her mark with yellow prints UNDER the plastic. HOW did she get them under the plastic???
If I never see a plaster bucket/tub again......

So, guess what I do? I volunteer to paint a former students house on Weds between morning session school and night conferences. Just three rooms, small house - empty... should take me no longer than 3 - 4 hours with help.

She has severe Cerebral Palsy, and I know she will try to do this herself...
Ever since Trump mocked the reporter for his CP condition I feel so badly for people who are afflicted in this matter. It is extremely painful and hard on the body.

Bad enough they get teased in school for this, but as an adult too?

On another note, it appears xh is trying to contact both daughters now. They really don't tell me when it happens, but since the birthday card, xh has sent "I miss you" texts to DD20.

He ignored her requests for tuition, my requests to help her with tuition -- {and she requested that he take her name off the guns that he removed from house. Both guns are warrantied in her name, I imagine registered, too.) After all he took, stole and how he treated her during divorce -- he expects that she is supposed to care if "he misses her" now???

-- typical WS/XH. Selfish, 24/7. It is all about them all of the time.

Hard to resist the urge to become involved - or make comments.

From what I understand many WS's try to make old family contacts between new girlfriends/OW's. They advise people to be extremely careful of such overtures during limerence.

I wonder if this is true with estranged children, too?

Ah, no matter.... Onward.

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He reminds me of MY dad. When my mom moved away when I graduated, and I couldn't afford to live on my own, I asked dad for help, for the first time ever. He 'couldn't.' He did offer to let me live in a room of his house. When I got married 3 years later, I asked him to help with the wedding. He 'couldn't.' He did offer me a night at a hotel as a wedding present. The room was smaller than my room at my house with my fiance. He paid $100 for it (in 1980) and made sure I knew ALL about how much he had 'spent' for me.

I never did forgive him. Still haven't, 20 years after he died.

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That's the pits. Fortunately for me, my girls are old enough (were old enough at BD) to understand the problem -- XH.

They both know it is nothing that they did to warrant such crappy pappy parenting. Glad. It would be hard to not internalize this rejection as a personal slight.

Amazing how some parents are. More than one have asked me if my daughters were my xh's biological kids. That's how indifferent he treat (ed) them. Many wondered if they were step kids.

crazy - cray cray.


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Oh, great. Affairs, the gift that keeps on giving.

Yesterday I was at grocery store, a woman I did not know was staring at me. I gave her a "what are you doing?" type of look, noticed her full make up, heels, nylons, younger than me (all I know about OW is that she spends a lot of money on clothes and dresses up everyday.) This woman was overdressed for shopping.

I blew this person off, I was tired and kept moving, I noticed she "dragged behind me" in the produce department. I looked straight at her, said nothing, and this lady finally uncomfortably moved on.

Forgot about it again. Until I went to another section, and she had pulled her cart over in a side isle, and she was obviously trying to get another look at me. I pretended I did not see her and continued my chores.

Around my school, and even on vacation, I have had people walk up and say "Do you teach? I think I know you." But this is 100% of the time a pleasant experience. This was not fun.

Since I never saw a picture, I don't know who this person was, but it gave me an incredibly weird feeling.
She obviously thought she recognized me. Weird.

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You should have taken a pic of her.

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