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How Is Your Marriage Doing? #358077
07/30/14 12:55 AM
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Mark1952 Offline OP
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Find out by taking the Marriage Quiz...



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I Was Thinking...

The secret to having a good marriage is to understand that marriage must be total, it must be permanent, and it must be equal.-- Frank Pittman
Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: Mark1952] #358102
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I find that quite interesting, a lot of it was So so or Average, but I would say that is because after an EA I keep a lot more to myself as I would never allow myself to become that vulnerable again, some might call it more independent who knows? We have a good realationship, have good times together and are far more considerate of each other as human beings, we are apart a lot because of work commitments but maybe that is why I am more independent?

Will be interested to see what others feel on this?


Once was lost but now found and happily married!

The story
http://www.marriageadvocates.com/ubbthreads/ubbthreads.php/topics/34625/Where_do_I_go

Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: lost rabbit] #358105
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Well I got a 5.4 in intimacy, 6.6 in passion, and 9 in commitment.

Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: Marta] #358262
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I got 8.6, 8.6, 8.8

Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: SmilingWife] #358264
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7.4, 8, 8.6

Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: peppermint] #358371
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Not quite here
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Not quite here
8, 7.6, 8


Married 20 years (this year) ~10y since dday(?)
DD14 DS12
Which way do you like yourself? ~ Stosny
Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: Squeaky Tree] #358374
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I got a big red warning across the screen that said "you're screwed, sign up immediately for one of our courses, and in the meantime buy our book!!!"

Just kidding. Sorta.


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: Miranda] #358390
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I got a 2.6 on passion, but that is skewed upward by the high score for "I think of my spouse all day". Something tells me that the author assumed those were positive thoughts. If the question were worded "I think of my partner lovingly throughout the day" or "I miss my partner terribly when we are apart" then I think it would be better suited to the passion index.


Solutions? There are none. There are decisions.
Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: holdingontoit] #358596
08/02/14 12:47 AM
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Okay Mark you got us.

Me, 9, 8, 9

Mrs I, 6.8, 8, 9

At least for tonight.

I'll work on it, lol

Last edited by Islander; 08/02/14 12:49 AM.
Re: How Is Your Marriage Doing? [Re: Islander] #361452
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Dh and I got very similar scores..8.8, 8.9,8.8 or some such.


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