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An update... #319149
10/17/13 02:59 PM
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Hello,

It's been almost nine months since D-day and today I felt like sharing my current situation.

I found MA in the first weeks after discovering the affair and although I didn't post very much I found the advice and support here invaluable.

So these are my highlights:-
I've moved to a smaller more financially manageable home
I've lost weight and got fit
I've made some new friends
My relationship with my teenage sons is stronger than ever
I start a new job next month
I have filed for divorce
I am happy. grin

The affair ended at some point when OW husband found out about it (not from me). My STBXH was not the first. OW liked a fling here and there but once my STBXH was 'available' she dumped him. OW husband decided he couldn't tolerate her multiple affairs and they have separated now. And my STBXH started another new relationship a few weeks ago, but I don't concern myself with what he's doing anymore.

The last few months have been very challenging at times, but I am so proud and pleased to be where I am now. I took care of my side of the street and I like the results.

Thank you
April

Re: An update... [Re: April] #319151
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Thanks for bringing us up to date, April.

Glad you have found some happiness and peace in this life.


When we open to this moment and don't judge it or try to change it, even when we're suffering and wish it were otherwise, we tap into the spaciousness of mind that allows us to move forward skillfully, with discernment and joy. -- Sharon Salzberg
Re: An update... [Re: Miranda] #319245
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That is awesome news. Good for you!

Re: An update... [Re: SmilingWife] #319265
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Good for you, April smile


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Re: An update... [Re: CajunRose] #320220
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April, thanks for the happy update smile Please continue to keep us posted smile


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