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Surviving Infidelity During The Holidays

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I stumbled yesterday into a little antiques and used bookstore in the tiny town where I live. Somewhere between the books on Civil War heroes and the vintage prints at the back of the store I started to cry. In … Continue reading

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Save Your Marriage Central: How Making Demands Destroys Love

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We all have needs: both physical and emotional. Some of these needs are met through other people, particularly in intimate relationships. We become quickly frustrated when our needs are not met. When our needs are not met for a length … Continue reading

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Communication Skills: What To Do When He/She Won’t Talk To You

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“My husband won’t talk to me.” “My wife is giving me the cold shoulder.” “When I ask what’s wrong, my partner says, ‘Nothing,’ but I can tell something is wrong.” Do these sound familiar? Do you have trouble getting your … Continue reading

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Validation and Invalidation – Part III: Pre-Validation

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The outcome of a challenging conversation is often determined well before any actual dialogue. Perhaps the single most important ingredient is the attitude one takes into it. The more empathetic an attitude you can adopt towards the other person beforehand, … Continue reading

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Validation and Invalidation – Part II: Validation

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To validate is to substantiate or confirm. We feel validated when we are heard and understood. In the context of this article, validation is when one person hears and understands the thoughts and feelings of another, and that person also … Continue reading

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Validation & Invalidation – Part I: Invalidation

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I’m going to quote Steven from EQI.org on validation and invalidation: “To validate is to acknowledge and accept one’s unique identity and individuality. Invalidation, on the other hand, is to reject, ignore, or judge their feelings, and hence, their individual … Continue reading

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Communication Skills: The Four Unholy Words

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If there are four words that are guaranteed to strike terror into any man, even the most hardened. Those words are: “We need to talk” In my opinion they should be stricken from the vocabulary of every woman on the … Continue reading

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