Category Archives: Infidelity Help

Infidelity is a devastating experience for marriages and the spouses within them. Whether your marriage has experienced an Emotional Affair or a Physical Affair, the emotional upheaval and loss of trust from the betrayal affect every aspect of the marriage. The articles and guides here will help guide you through this painful time, whether you just found out your spouse is cheating, have known for a while, or you are the one having the affair. Further help is available on our Infidelity & Abandonment forum.

Why Affairs Don’t Last

Infatuation Is A Drug

The intense romantic chemistry that is the hallmark of infatuation is impossible to maintain.  The research of Helen Fisher and other neuroscientists, along with the anecdotal evidence from most marriage gurus, puts the threshold of infatuation between twelve and eighteen months.  … Continue reading

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For Better Or Worse: Marriage Vows Are For The Hard Times

Married Couple

Several years ago, I wrote an article titled “So Did You Mean It When You Said,” asking if you were serious when you vowed, “For better or for worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health,” and so forth. It remains, … Continue reading

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Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity

Healing & Recovery

Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity Infidelity affects nearly 80% of the marriages in the US. Most marriages that are rocked by infidelity do not end due to the affair; if the marriage ends in divorce following an … Continue reading

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How To End Your Affair

Lighthouse in the Fog

You have gotten yourself in a big mess. Whether you are the cheating “wayward” spouse or the affair partner, your affair needs to end and you know it, but you can’t quite figure out how to end your affair. Ending … Continue reading

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A Betrayed Spouse’s Guide to Responding to Marital Infidelity – Part VI

Healing & Recovery

In Part V of this series, we explored how a Betrayed Spouse can begin the process of recovering a marriage after an affair, as well as some cautions about pitfalls such as false recovery. Part VI will cover how a Betrayed … Continue reading

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A Betrayed Spouse’s Guide to Responding to Marital Infidelity – Part V

Marital Recovery

In Part IV of this series, we explored how a Betrayed Spouse can make a decision on whether or not to attempt marital recovery. Part V will cover how a Betrayed Spouse can navigate recovering the marriage from infidelity. Recovering a … Continue reading

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I Cheated, and Now I Need Help!

Man Holding Head on Steps

You’ve cheated, and now you need help. Maybe you have ended your affair, or maybe you want to and can’t find the willpower to stick to it. You have searched for help on websites or forums, and you’ve stumbled upon … Continue reading

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Save Your Marriage Central: Steps to Ending an Affair

Snooping

Infidelity is a thoughtless, selfish, and cruel act. It is perhaps one of the most painful things we can go through as adults. And yet it is an incredible tribute to the resiliency of the human spirit that many can … Continue reading

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Anatomy Of an Affair: How Long Do Affairs Last?

How long do affairs last?

The question “How long do affairs last?” comes up in almost every discussion about affairs, for a variety of reasons. It is often one of the first questions asked by people who have recently discovered that their spouse has been … Continue reading

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A Betrayed Spouse’s Guide to Responding to Marital Infidelity – Part IV

Indecision

Should a Betrayed Spouse take a chance, or kick ‘em to the curb? There seems to be two schools of thought on infidelity support forums about how a Betrayed Spouse should handle an affair. One says the Betrayed Spouse must confront the … Continue reading

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