Category Archives: Guides

Why Affairs Don’t Last

Infatuation Is A Drug

The intense romantic chemistry that is the hallmark of infatuation is impossible to maintain.  The research of Helen Fisher and other neuroscientists, along with the anecdotal evidence from most marriage gurus, puts the threshold of infatuation between twelve and eighteen months.  … Continue reading

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Being The Safe Place For Your Marriage During Infidelity

Shattered Couple

  “Everybody is looking for validation, no matter who you are, and I think that’s a need of the human condition – to look for affection or recognition or validation.” – Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu Being The Safe Place For Your … Continue reading

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Surviving Infidelity During The Holidays

Couple at Christmas

I stumbled yesterday into a little antiques and used bookstore in the tiny town where I live. Somewhere between the books on Civil War heroes and the vintage prints at the back of the store I started to cry. In … Continue reading

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Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity

Healing & Recovery

Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity Infidelity affects nearly 80% of the marriages in the US. Most marriages that are rocked by infidelity do not end due to the affair; if the marriage ends in divorce following an … Continue reading

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How To End Your Affair

Lighthouse in the Fog

You have gotten yourself in a big mess. Whether you are the cheating “wayward” spouse or the affair partner, your affair needs to end and you know it, but you can’t quite figure out how to end your affair. Ending … Continue reading

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A Betrayed Spouse’s Guide to Responding to Marital Infidelity – Part VI

Healing & Recovery

In Part V of this series, we explored how a Betrayed Spouse can begin the process of recovering a marriage after an affair, as well as some cautions about pitfalls such as false recovery. Part VI will cover how a Betrayed … Continue reading

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A Betrayed Spouse’s Guide to Responding to Marital Infidelity – Part V

Marital Recovery

In Part IV of this series, we explored how a Betrayed Spouse can make a decision on whether or not to attempt marital recovery. Part V will cover how a Betrayed Spouse can navigate recovering the marriage from infidelity. Recovering a … Continue reading

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I Cheated, and Now I Need Help!

Man Holding Head on Steps

You’ve cheated, and now you need help. Maybe you have ended your affair, or maybe you want to and can’t find the willpower to stick to it. You have searched for help on websites or forums, and you’ve stumbled upon … Continue reading

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What Should I Do When My Spouse Is Having An Affair?

Distant Couple

When your spouse is having an affair, your world becomes a confusing, scary place full of hurt, shame, and anger. You will wonder why this has happened and what action(s) to take. “Love is understood, in a historical way, as … Continue reading

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Anatomy Of an Affair: How Long Do Affairs Last?

How long do affairs last?

The question “How long do affairs last?” comes up in almost every discussion about affairs, for a variety of reasons. It is often one of the first questions asked by people who have recently discovered that their spouse has been … Continue reading

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