Category Archives: Featured Articles

Articles featured in the Marriage Advocates slide show.

Why Affairs Don’t Last

Infatuation Is A Drug

The intense romantic chemistry that is the hallmark of infatuation is impossible to maintain.  The research of Helen Fisher and other neuroscientists, along with the anecdotal evidence from most marriage gurus, puts the threshold of infatuation between twelve and eighteen months.  … Continue reading

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Being The Safe Place For Your Marriage During Infidelity

Shattered Couple

  “Everybody is looking for validation, no matter who you are, and I think that’s a need of the human condition – to look for affection or recognition or validation.” – Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu Being The Safe Place For Your … Continue reading

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For Better Or Worse: Marriage Vows Are For The Hard Times

Married Couple

Several years ago, I wrote an article titled “So Did You Mean It When You Said,” asking if you were serious when you vowed, “For better or for worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health,” and so forth. It remains, … Continue reading

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Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity

Healing & Recovery

Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity Infidelity affects nearly 80% of the marriages in the US. Most marriages that are rocked by infidelity do not end due to the affair; if the marriage ends in divorce following an … Continue reading

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Understanding Child Custody Jurisdiction

Parent and Child

Child custody is one of the most critical topics for those facing a divorce or separation. It is complex, costly, and time consuming to litigate. Losing child custody fills parents with dread. You may experience severe anxiety just thinking about … Continue reading

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How To End Your Affair

Lighthouse in the Fog

You have gotten yourself in a big mess. Whether you are the cheating “wayward” spouse or the affair partner, your affair needs to end and you know it, but you can’t quite figure out how to end your affair. Ending … Continue reading

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A Betrayed Spouse’s Guide to Responding to Marital Infidelity – Part VI

Healing & Recovery

In Part V of this series, we explored how a Betrayed Spouse can begin the process of recovering a marriage after an affair, as well as some cautions about pitfalls such as false recovery. Part VI will cover how a Betrayed … Continue reading

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Save Your Marriage Central: Steps to Ending an Affair

Snooping

Infidelity is a thoughtless, selfish, and cruel act. It is perhaps one of the most painful things we can go through as adults. And yet it is an incredible tribute to the resiliency of the human spirit that many can … Continue reading

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What Should I Do When My Spouse Is Having An Affair?

Distant Couple

When your spouse is having an affair, your world becomes a confusing, scary place full of hurt, shame, and anger. You will wonder why this has happened and what action(s) to take. “Love is understood, in a historical way, as … Continue reading

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Anatomy Of an Affair: How Long Do Affairs Last?

How long do affairs last?

The question “How long do affairs last?” comes up in almost every discussion about affairs, for a variety of reasons. It is often one of the first questions asked by people who have recently discovered that their spouse has been … Continue reading

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