Category Archives: Communication Skills

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Being The Safe Place For Your Marriage During Infidelity

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  “Everybody is looking for validation, no matter who you are, and I think that’s a need of the human condition – to look for affection or recognition or validation.” – Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu Being The Safe Place For Your … Continue reading

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Surviving Infidelity During The Holidays

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I stumbled yesterday into a little antiques and used bookstore in the tiny town where I live. Somewhere between the books on Civil War heroes and the vintage prints at the back of the store I started to cry. In … Continue reading

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Save Your Marriage Central: How Making Demands Destroys Love

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We all have needs: both physical and emotional. Some of these needs are met through other people, particularly in intimate relationships. We become quickly frustrated when our needs are not met. When our needs are not met for a length … Continue reading

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Communication Skills: What To Do When He/She Won’t Talk To You

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“My husband won’t talk to me.” “My wife is giving me the cold shoulder.” “When I ask what’s wrong, my partner says, ‘Nothing,’ but I can tell something is wrong.” Do these sound familiar? Do you have trouble getting your … Continue reading

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Unrealistic Expectations: The Dysfunctional Myth of “Happily Ever After”

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Prompted by last year’s news coverage of Prince William’s marriage to Kate Middleton, I’ve decided to explicitly tackle the myth of a “Happily Ever After” that occurs after the wedding. The implicit assumption seems to be that one finds love, … Continue reading

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Combating The Affair Fog: Reverse Babble

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Reverse Babble – a tool used by those who have to deal with babblers.  For the purposes of this article, Reverse Babble (RB) is a tool used when dealing with a Wayward Spouse in the midst of the Wayward Fog; however, … Continue reading

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Listening Skills: Be Still

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Do conversations with your spouse sometimes lead to angry words and hurt feelings? Do you feel unheard and misunderstood by your spouse? Do the words “we need to talk” fill you with dread? If you answered “yes” to any of … Continue reading

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Validation and Invalidation – Part III: Pre-Validation

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The outcome of a challenging conversation is often determined well before any actual dialogue. Perhaps the single most important ingredient is the attitude one takes into it. The more empathetic an attitude you can adopt towards the other person beforehand, … Continue reading

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Validation and Invalidation – Part II: Validation

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To validate is to substantiate or confirm. We feel validated when we are heard and understood. In the context of this article, validation is when one person hears and understands the thoughts and feelings of another, and that person also … Continue reading

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Validation & Invalidation – Part I: Invalidation

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I’m going to quote Steven from EQI.org on validation and invalidation: “To validate is to acknowledge and accept one’s unique identity and individuality. Invalidation, on the other hand, is to reject, ignore, or judge their feelings, and hence, their individual … Continue reading

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