Why Affairs Don’t Last

Infatuation Is A Drug

The intense romantic chemistry that is the hallmark of infatuation is impossible to maintain.  The research of Helen Fisher and other neuroscientists, along with the anecdotal evidence from most marriage gurus, puts the threshold of infatuation between twelve and eighteen months.  … Continue reading

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Being The Safe Place For Your Marriage During Infidelity

Shattered Couple

  “Everybody is looking for validation, no matter who you are, and I think that’s a need of the human condition – to look for affection or recognition or validation.” – Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu Being The Safe Place For Your … Continue reading

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For Better Or Worse: Marriage Vows Are For The Hard Times

Married Couple

Several years ago, I wrote an article titled “So Did You Mean It When You Said,” asking if you were serious when you vowed, “For better or for worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health,” and so forth. It remains, … Continue reading

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Surviving Infidelity During The Holidays

Couple at Christmas

I stumbled yesterday into a little antiques and used bookstore in the tiny town where I live. Somewhere between the books on Civil War heroes and the vintage prints at the back of the store I started to cry. In … Continue reading

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Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity

Healing & Recovery

Essential Steps to Recover Your Marriage After Infidelity Infidelity affects nearly 80% of the marriages in the US. Most marriages that are rocked by infidelity do not end due to the affair; if the marriage ends in divorce following an … Continue reading

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Understanding Child Custody Jurisdiction

Parent and Child

Child custody is one of the most critical topics for those facing a divorce or separation. It is complex, costly, and time consuming to litigate. Losing child custody fills parents with dread. You may experience severe anxiety just thinking about … Continue reading

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How To End Your Affair

Lighthouse in the Fog

You have gotten yourself in a big mess. Whether you are the cheating “wayward” spouse or the affair partner, your affair needs to end and you know it, but you can’t quite figure out how to end your affair. Ending … Continue reading

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A Betrayed Spouse’s Guide to Responding to Marital Infidelity – Part VI

Healing & Recovery

In Part V of this series, we explored how a Betrayed Spouse can begin the process of recovering a marriage after an affair, as well as some cautions about pitfalls such as false recovery. Part VI will cover how a Betrayed … Continue reading

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A Betrayed Spouse’s Guide to Responding to Marital Infidelity – Part V

Marital Recovery

In Part IV of this series, we explored how a Betrayed Spouse can make a decision on whether or not to attempt marital recovery. Part V will cover how a Betrayed Spouse can navigate recovering the marriage from infidelity. Recovering a … Continue reading

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I Cheated, and Now I Need Help!

Man Holding Head on Steps

You’ve cheated, and now you need help. Maybe you have ended your affair, or maybe you want to and can’t find the willpower to stick to it. You have searched for help on websites or forums, and you’ve stumbled upon … Continue reading

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